5 Ways to Get Kinky While Sexting

Back in the day when John Brownstone and I were still long distance, our phones were everything. We texted, we emailed, we called. I think that’s when I learned to live with my phone in my hand — a habit that hasn’t died just because we’re married and live together.

We did everything together on our phones. Yes, including phone sex and sending plenty of nudes. In the few times since those days when we’ve been apart, we’ve fallen back on those habits to feel close. Apart from sending dick and boob pics or masturbating together over the phone, there are a lot more things you can do to get kinky when you’re apart.

This is what we used to do get kinky while sexting. Try any of these or suggest your own!

Proof of Arousal and/or Masturbation

Many times when we were long distance, my phone would buzz across my desk. It was often a message telling me to go to the ladies room and touch myself. Sometimes to orgasm, sometimes not. But it always included the requirement of a picture. I’ve taken pictures of soaked fingers, wet panties, and even my cunt from a bathroom stall many times.

Panty Pictures and Butt Selfies

Since the early days of our D/s relationship, John Brownstone has always decided whether I would wear panties or not, and if I did, which ones. Every morning he picked out a pair, and my job was to send him a sexy pic while wearing them. These days, the only time he wants a picture is if he lets me pick my own panties out to wear — which is rare — even if he’s in the next room. Now I take panty pics and butt selfies for fun on Instagram.

Plugged and Loaded

For a while we played with anal play and training, especially since it was still new to me when we first met. Not completely new, but enough that even a small butt plug was uncomfortable. I remember going out shopping on my day off, plugged, with orders to send pictures of myself from the dressing room when I tried on clothes. He also had me wear one during a meeting at work — and I couldn’t take it off until it was over. That was the longest meeting of my life.

Consensual Nudes

The OG of sexting, nudes, were always a part of our long distance fun. We had already consented to receiving them so being surprised at work with a dick pic or cunt shot was always pleasant. It also taught us to keep our phones upside down on our desks. I never got caught receiving a nude shot at work, but I came close a few times. Now we take nudes together and post them here on the blog, but back in the day, it was always fun to receive and send them by text.

Kinky Fantasies

We used basic texting to learn each other’s kinky fantasies and dive into a few. Texting or speaking, I’m still not great at dirty talk or role play. I can happily text back what my response would be — usually moans, squeaks, and whimpers. (Even during sex, I’m not going to say much beyond, “Oh God” and “Fuck yes!”) John Brownstone is great at setting a scene and getting me turned on.

Biting, spanking, hair pulling, bondage, face fucking — we explored all of it by text long before we did them in person. It certainly made our mutual masturbation even better at the end of the day. He’d get me all worked up mentally, keep my body semi-aroused through the day, and then walk me through multiple orgasms at night. It was delicious!

You don’t need a partner to sext. Sexting with a partner and exchanging sexy pics is fun — and a great way to connect. But you don’t need a partner to have that kind of fun, either. Sites like Arousr help you connect with willing women who are happy to sext with you — as long as you’re willing to pay for the privilege and the pleasure. If you want to explore a new kink or just get more comfortable sexting, there’s nothing wrong with hiring a professional to help you out and turn you on.

My sexting skills are a bit rusty these days. We’re so rarely apart that it’s not something we think about much. But I know it’s another way to stay connected and get our kink on — whenever we want to use it.

This post sponsored by Arousr.