This week on Loving BDSM we got into a kinky discussion about scenes and playtime. For some people, these are two separate things. For people like John Brownstone and I, they’re basically the same thing with just a few differences. Like everything we do in kink, it’s unique to the people doing it, and you can make your scene, your playtime, your session, or your kinky fuckery whatever works for you and your partner.
Of course, we talked about our experiences with scenes and what we enjoy – we might have gone down a rabbit hole remembering past scenes/sessions. Which was part of the fun!
If you wonder what a scene is or how to make one happen, hopefully this episode will help!
From the show:
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- Kinky Book Club is a real live thing!
- Is there a difference between a scene and “playtime?”
- Scenes can be rigid, filled with protocol, and elaborate…or not.
- Playtime, for us, is whatever we do that’s kinky – with or without sex.
- Some scenes are roleplay.
- Mind fucks can be a scene.
- Scenes or playtime all require communication and negotiation.
- Knowing your partner’s limits before you plan the scene is important.
- Talking about the details doesn’t take away the hotness.
- Scenes can be as basic or as detailed as you want.
- It’s important to go with the flow. Not all scenes will go as you imagined.
- Be flexible, communicate, use safewords, and watch your partner.
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