Sex Writing

Finding Humor in the Blogging Life

Shakespeare staring at his laptop thinking to blog or not to blog that is the question

When your views drop to all-time lows, when no one has commented on or liked a blog post in weeks, when only three people of your 300 Facebook followers even see your post online…

You have two choices:

Pull your hair out. Scream. Throw your laptop. Punch the screen.


Laugh your ass off. Because the reality is that we all go through that. Today, the only tip I’m sharing for my smutty writer friends is to laugh a little more. Here, I’ll help…

Spock telling Captain Kirk to go away I'm blogging cat sitting at computer says I am soooooo blogging about this Shakespeare staring at his laptop thinking to blog or not to blog that is the question

Okay, hopefully we’re all laughing a little (instead of sobbing dejectedly). If you keep blogging, stay consistent, and find your own personal groove (instead of trying to be like other bloggers), the views will go up, the interaction will improve, and you won’t be shouting into a void.

About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


  • Big hugs. I need life to stop happening, rough weekend continued to rough Monday. So I didn’t get to Masturbation Monday like I intended because I’m already thousands of words behind on Camp Nano; now I’m just trying to think about Camp and managing to write something for WIP It Up Wednesday, which is one thing I manage to do most weeks, but I never get any comments on except for one on Fb.

    • ((HUGS)) Awww, I get it! I had a really rough month and never did half the stuff I intended to do. Do the best you can and know that no one will ever be harder on you than you are.

      • Take a look back at week 94’s Masturbation Monday- eventually I’ll finish the piece I started that it inspired. I’ll make sure to share it to you, probably on Twitter. But while the picture made me think of Tommy and Simon in their 20s, I ended up starting to write them making love in their 30s 😀

  • Hi Kayla

    Thanks for the giggle really needed it. Like Joelle life has just caught up with me although I still read don’t always have time for comments. Sorry xxxxx

    Teaching has finished for the summer so although I promised myself I would catch up with everything – guess what not happened yet. I also promised myself I would start my exercise!!! lol routine but have now decided to have a week rest – Wimbledon (tennis) is on so hey what the heck!!! lol

    Take care and will comment more in the future provided life doesn’t bite me in the bum!!

    • No worries, Sue! I’m the same way – I read but can’t always stop to comment. I never doubted you were there. 🙂

      Enjoy this time to relax and rest! I can’t imagine being a teacher but I know none of you are paid enough for putting up with our kids all day every day. The least you deserve is a week of rest, lol.

      • Thanks Kayla

        I actually teach adults!! I teach lipreading to adults with a hearing loss and as you know I have a hearing loss it makes sense – no money but sense lol.

        Unfortunately lipreading is not classed as Education in the UK so has no funding really. I would like to charge enough to teach but no that if I did I would not get any students!! It appears to be better paid and recognised in the USA. Maybe I should move? But at the age of 61 don’t think the USA would let me in!! lol

        Take care of yourself and each other hugs from me xxx

  • Just popping in to let you know, I do read all your posts. I’m living “Novel” right now and don’t always have time to stop and write comments. And sometimes my head is so full of everythingintheworldtodo and notenoughtimeinthedaytodoitall, that I just don’t have time to stop and comment–much less post anything on my own blog! o.O
    Yours is one of the only blogs I do read regularly. I thoroughly enjoy your posts. I love the mix of whimsy with the information that you provide in most of your posts.
    We’re here, we are here, we are here! Now, tell me the story that is quoted from and you win the Kewpie doll prize! 🙂

    • Horton Hears a Who, of course. 😛

      I appreciate you for reading, and I know not everyone can comment. This post was more for the blogger who feels discouraged is unsure of what to do and feels like they’re failing. 🙂

      • Haha! You got it! You win the Kewpie doll!
        I figured that might be what the post was about, but have a few friends that suffer from depression. They tend to get discouraged quite easily. Popping in just to say hello occasionally seems to help.

  • I freak out when I see that I haven’t blogged something in four days. It’s one of the reasons why I joined the Masturbation Monday group. I get so focused on other things, like writing stories, that the blog kind of gets neglected. It was also another reason I did Sharing is Caring for other authors to post an excerpt to something they’ve written, links, and a bio. It was one less thing for me to truly work on, yet there’s a blog post. Every little thing helps.

    I’d also rather have a blog than a newsletter….

    • A newsletter takes some work but can have a place in marketing efforts. Several of the marketing people I follow strongly recommend both a blog and a newsletter. But I also think you have to do what works best for you, regardless of what all the “experts” say. 🙂

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