Wicked Wednesday

Dangerous at 21

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He was 21…to my 16.

My reaction to him was immediate and visceral. Even though I had a boyfriend at the time, a boy who was a friend of his.

He had sparkling blue eyes, dirty blonde hair, a don’t-give-a-fuck attitude, and a trench coat that I believed to be the sexiest, hottest thing a guy could wear.

In my young and innocent eyes, he was a stud. A masculine god. He knew things no one else did. His porn stash wasn’t hidden. Every time we (the long-forgotten boyfriend and I) went to his place, he made a point of playing it.

One time he popped in a tape into his old VHS player while I lay on the bed. He and the boyfriend both touched and explored my body over my clothes. It felt good. And wrong. I liked it and was terrified of it. The distant sounds of faux-desire in the background heightened the tension.

He had a charisma that my adult-self recognizes as dangerous. I know why my father had a meltdown of epic proportions when a friend told him about this 21 year old man-boy. At the time? Utter devastation. The friend who betrayed me? First she said it was to protect me. Later she admitted to envy and jealousy. I should probably thank her.

My memories are scattered across time and space, but I remember moments…

The night I pretended to be helpless after a little too much Boone’s Farm wine – strawberry-flavored, of course. My (quite large and strong) boyfriend picked me up and carried me inside. I felt small and controlled. The 21 year old ran ice cubes over my neck to rouse me. I experienced a sexual heat I didn’t feel again for another 16 years.

I played with fire with that boy…My boyfriend followed our whims, until he was no longer my boyfriend. I barely remember the break-up, although I know I hurt him – if his Facebook message of longing for our youth 20 years later is any indication.

But that 21 year old man-boy? I met him wherever I could as soon as I was “free.” We never fucked. He never tried. But goddamn could he kiss. He made me feel things I didn’t understand or recognize. He was my first taste of danger and power. My father knew exactly what he was, although I only see it now at nearly 40.

Before whatever could have happen, he left. Packed up. Moved to Texas. Gone.

This was before email and instant messaging became ubiquitous. Of course, this was also when my father controlled my access to a computer and the internet. Once he left, it all ended.

The old boyfriend dogged my steps for a while, desperate to win me back, before retreating in anger. My cravings for this man-boy only increased once I couldn’t have him. Every touch, every memory became more potent.

It took me a long time to move on from my dangerous 21 year old. Even with so much lost to the dust of time and faded memories, certain things remain.

Like that ice cube. The porn flickering on the television. How it felt to be at his mercy, even if only in my mind.

He’s a phantom, a fantasy, in my memories — where he belongs. The reality could never match how the memory makes me feel.

And looking back on it now, I see my kinky self trying desperately to emerge. I understand it now, although I am damn grateful nothing happened. The memories are more than enough. A reality of discovery with him might have been dangerous.

Welcome to Wicked Wednesday where this week’s prompt is 21. When I turned 21, I went to an evening class on campus and then to Applebee’s for a drink. This memory of 21 was much better…and the first time I’ve ever pulled it out to share it with anyone. Want more? Click below!

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About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


  • When I was 21 I was married with 2 children one was born when I was 19 and the other was born when I was 21 so not much “kink” for me!!!

  • I wonder how many of us had someone like your dangerous man-boy in our lives. Your telling about him instantly reminded me of the soldier whom I knew was dangerous but I was drawn to him like a moth to a flame. I was 15, he was 18… maybe I should tell the story…

    I like how you recognize now that your kinky self tried to emerge back then.

    Rebel xox

    • You should *definitely* tell the story! I would SOOOO read that!

      And yes, it’s funny how I once thought kink appeared to me out of nowhere at age 32 when I realize now, parts of it could have broken free if only I’d known more and been less fearful of my own sexuality.

  • How fun to have a memory so sexually charged and not look back with any regret. Dangerous indeed, I’m glad things didn’t progress beyond what you were ready for.

  • I loved this story, what a parcel load of trouble but how irresistible! I can completely understand the attraction.
    Ryan was my man/boy and I can remember thinking he was dangerous even though I was the older one. In many ways I was right, but by writing about him I’ve also come to appreciate our relationship afresh.

  • Oh, to be young and full of lust! I was a teenager who always hung out with older people and identify with a lot of this. When you’re young, you don’t see potential danger because you’re trying so hard to be grown up. The fact that he didn’t try to fuck you is probably indicative of the fact that *he* saw potential danger in the situation, depending on the age of consent laws where you grew up…

    • Very true! He was willing to push the envelope but never really took it as far as I hoped/feared he might.

      And I was the same way about older people. From my very first boyfriend to now, I’ve always gravitated to older guys, and all my closest friends are older than me.

  • Beautifully written – i remember that trench coat look – thought it was so cool – in fact, i remember when I first met my man 20 odd years ago he had one

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