BDSM Info Podcast

I Don’t Do Drama

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Blame it on my personality, my mental health, or my INTJ personality (or a combination of it all) but I have a drama intolerance.

I. Don’t. Do. Drama. Never have.

Part of it is the triggering effect (and I mean that as seriously as that term can be taken) that confrontation has on my mental state. Part of it, though, is that I have zero time or patience for it.

So when curious kinksters ask how to deal with the drama they find in their local BDSM community – the kind so bad they don’t want to engage with other kinky people, I’m not always sure how to answer them.

“Avoid all those motherfuckers” doesn’t seem like great advice – or at least not healthy or realistic. Since my go-to option doesn’t seem helpful, I actually gave it a bit of thought – with the help of John Brownstone who always handles these things better than I do. From that, we have a show…

I don’t think we have all the answers. In fact, I think there are so many perspectives to what “drama” means and how to best handle it or combat it, that the possibilities are likely endless. But, we offered some options, a little tough love, and as much compassion and empathy as we could.

Do you have thoughts about the drama between people in the local community? Have you found a way to deal with it that works best for you? Give the show a listen, and let us know what you think.

From the show:

  • The website is back up. A huge thank you and shout-out to @DomSigns – find him on Twitter!
  • You can save 15% off the Crescendo by Mystery Vibe with our special link.
  • Drama happens wherever people gather – it’s unavoidable.
  • There are multiple ways to deal with drama – you have to find what works best for you.
  • Not every community is the right one for you. Look for or create the one that fits you best.
  • Don’t give up – you can find your tribe, even if they’re online or you have to make it yourself.

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About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!

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