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The Business of Writing About Sex: A Review of 2015

The Business of Writing About Sex

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It’s that time of month again…time to talk numbers and stats and all the little numbers that make my heart go pitter-patter. I considered doing two – one for December and another for the year in review, and then I thought, “Oh hell no, I have zero time for all that crap.” So instead, you’re getting a year in review.

I don’t do this to make myself sound great, simply to pull back the curtains and show some of the reality of sex blogging and erotic publishing. There are plenty of writers/bloggers with better stats than I have and those who are on the other side of the curve. Take what you will from this. I’m proud of these numbers because they represent a lot of hard work and effort…as well as love for all of y’all, kinky fuckery, and BDSM education.

A Sexual Being: 2015

Total views: 161,454 – 50,000 more than last year; 442 views on average per day

Total posts: 291 – not quite one a day

Top post of the year: 3 Things Submissives Do That Turn Off Dominants (over 8,000 views and I wrote it in October. Wow!)

2016 Goal: Organize the site a little to help BDSM beginners; grow my newsletter subscriptions

2015 Blogging Love

I was honored to be named among some great bloggers out there for a few different lists (OMG, I hope I don’t forget anyone!)

Kinkly Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes

Molly’s 20 of 2015

Rebel’s Top 20 of 2015

Beck’s Top 25 Sex Bloggers of 2015

Kilted Wookie’s 2015 Naughty List

I have no doubt I’m going to overlook someone and feel absolutely awful. If you were kind enough to honor me with blogging love in 2015 and I didn’t list you, let me know! This is what happens when I let stuff get away from me and don’t thank people immediately.

On that note, Molly (my dear, sweet friend Molly who does so much that I feel like I’m standing still next to her) is giving the Between My Sheet’s Top 100 Sex Blogs a re-do. Rori (writer and blog ranker extraordinaire) has had to put aside blogging due to health issues, but Molly didn’t want to see her great list die off. Molly can’t be nominated again since she won in 2012 so she’s taking over – at least for now.

Nominations are open through January. I’d love your nomination, but I also think you should nominate any and all sex blogs you love. I sent mine via email!

Top 100 Sex Blogs Redux

No 2016 goals for this one. I like the lists (it’s that numbers addiction) but I don’t write for rankings. I write for y’all.

Masturbation Monday: 2015

Total views: 133,588 – 336 views on average per day (proving people don’t just show up on Mondays, y’all)

Total posts shared: 789 – at the beginning of the year we average 50 a month, and now we average 70 a month!

Top week of the year: Week 48 – I don’t know why people keep coming back to this one, but after the main page, this week gets the most views. Weird.

2016: Get more people involved – as readers and writers.

Kayla Lords, Erotic Author: 2015

I admit, I could have done a better job of promoting my work this year, and I definitely needed to write more, but I managed to publish two books this year:

Madame Gretchen – nominated for a Golden Flogger, Best BDSM Book of 2015 (OMG!)

Sir and Babygirl: Family Ties – book three with one more to go in the series!

Total books sold: 497 – averaging 41 book sales a month. Eh, not the worst ever.

2016 Goal: Write more, publish more, and work with a publisher.

Kayla Lords, Sex Writer: 2015

I could share all the articles but holy hell, no one has time to read all of that. Instead, here’s where you can find nearly everything I wrote this past year for other websites:

Submissive Guide


Lelo’s Volonte blog (one article so far, but it’s a start!)

2016 Goal: Keep writing; write a column for a sex/kink website

Loving BDSM: 2015

Okay, so by the end of the year, we were only on episode 18, and stats for podcasting aren’t easy to compile, but I will do my best:

iTunes: 3 comments on iTunes but no rating. The more comments/raitings we get, the more likely we are to be ranked and rated. Comments and ratings = love, y’all!

Stitcher: 400 downloads on Stitcher and listed on 28 playlists. Total rank: 5,034 out of I don’t know how many.

The podcast is in other places and many people listen right from the site. If I can ever figure out how to compile the stats in a better way, I will.

2016 Goal: Add podcast to other venues; figure out stats; keep producing episodes – get John Brownstone to do more episodes (he has SUCH a great voice!).

That’s a lot of stuff for one year. Those are just black and white numbers and don’t really tell the full story. If you’re interested in joining the world of sex blogging or erotic writing and publishing, I’m starting a new series (soon!) on marketing, writing, and all of that. Not that I have all the knowledge but I think we all have plenty to learn from each other, and this is my way of doing my part in spreading information.

About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


    • Not in a day – but over the last 3 months. Pretty big to me.

      And I have a non-fiction book outlined and partially written. I have no doubt I’ll be pulling from the blog for a lot of it. 🙂

      • Totally agree with Cara — get the nonfiction book out. You’ve got plenty of material to draw from. Of your posts, I admit that this section (the business side of things) is the one I like to read the most. 🙂 Happy New Year! Looking forward to so many more areas of expansion in your business and writing! Best, JT

        • I agree. It’s definitely going to be a priority over the next few months. 🙂

          And yeah, I can kind of tell who appreciates this most more than others, lol. 🙂

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