Sex Writing

The Business of Writing About Sex: October 2015

The Business of Writing About Sex

Dear God, how in the hell is it already November? Where did October go?? I don’t know, but it was a good month all the way around.

Sex Blogging

A Sexual Being

  • 26 posts
  • 22,190 views – I went viral, y’all (at least for one weekend)!
  • 211 newsletter subscribers – I gained over 100 newsletter subscribers in one month!

Top Post of October: 3 Things Submissives Do That Turn Off Dominants (my viral post)

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Masturbation Monday

  • 70 posts shared by various bloggers

Sex Bloggers Unite Triberr Group

  • 14 members
  • social reach of 49,672

If you write about sex, are willing to share other people’s posts, and want to grow your readership, click on the link above to join the tribe. I swear by Triberr for helping my page views grow.

Sex Blogger Lists

The Kinkly list is out (thanks to all who voted) and holy fucking shit, you’re not going to believe this!

I’m number 15 out of 100! That’s a pretty big bump considering last year, they ranked me at number 73. What I love about this list is all the names I recognize. Check out some of the names in the top erotica blogs, and I have no doubt you’ll see a few familiar names.

I am so proud of everyone I know on that list!!!!

Kinkly’s Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2015 <== Click it! You know you want to!

Erotic Book Sales

This includes The Adventures of Sir and BabygirlSir and Babygirl: Bound by Love, on Amazon only: Madame Gretchen, and as of October 21 – Sir and Babygirl: Family Ties

  • Amazon – 52
  • iBooks – 5
  • Barnes & Noble – 1
  • All Romance – 1

The beauty of actually publishing a book means you, ya know, sell a few, too. I haven’t done a lot of promotion. A few of my author friends are helping me out, a couple reviewers I know, and me. I’m not ignoring the marketing part of the writing business, just redirecting my focus to the actual writing part. I’d love to get another book out before the end of the year, but we’ll see. The vanilla writing is going through the roof right now so it’s slowing down progress. I’m working on it, though!


Around the Web

I was in all kinds of interesting places in October…

How to Talk to Your Partner About BDSM – – You know you’re doing something right when people ask you to write an article for them. It’s a follow up to the piece I wrote several months ago, introducing BDSM to a mostly vanilla audience.

Serving Your Dominant Outside the Bedroom – – I’m building a nice working relationship with this site. They’ll be seeing plenty more of me over the next few weeks.

What Happens After You Use Your Safeword? – – For anyone who’s been into BDSM for a while, this might seem basic, but for others, it’s information they don’t have.

Loving BDSM Podcast

John Brownstone and I are 10 weeks into our newest adventure – a BDSM-themed, D/s-focused podcast. I’d love to share numbers with you, but they’re hard to come by. The RSS feed subscriber count fluctuates daily. We can’t access iTunes stats and until we get more reviews, we don’t have a ranking. Our numbers on Stitcher continue to grow, but that’s only a small percentage of our listeners – for the month of October, we had 38 listeners.

What I can share is that I’m receiving comments, emails, and private messages from people who say they love the show and are learning more about D/s because of it. Sure, I’d love a million listeners, but that kind of feedback is better than big numbers.

For anyone who hasn’t heard about the show, check it out:

I don’t have any advice to share this month. I’m keeping my head down and writing my ass off. No NaNoWriMo for me this year but as I’m writing more than 40,000 words a month as it is, one month to write 50,000 words doesn’t mean as much to me. And writing 90,000 words in a month makes my fingers ache just thinking about it. For those of you who are working on your novels this month, good luck!!


About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


    • I made a goal more than a year ago that one day I want to earn most of my money from this side of my writing. From that moment on, I treated it like a business – a business I love and one that’s very personal. That, and I’m tired of all the secrecy of what success looks like. I don’t consider myself “successful” by commercial standards but some people do – so it was time to pull back the veil of what that means, and it doesn’t mean a lot of book sales or page views, lol.

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