My wheels are always spinning. Sometimes that’s a good thing, and new ideas are brought to life. Sometimes, it’s a not-so-good thing, and the only thing that calms me down is a good spanking. Mmmm, spankings…
Wait? What are we talking about?
Oh yeah, my spinning wheels. Thanks to the writing I’ve been doing lately and the podcast episodes (Loving BDSM – have you listened to an episode yet??), I’m hearing from a lot of new people. They’re either new to BDSM and have a million questions or they’ve been at this a while and wish there were things they’d known in the beginning. Hearing different perspectives is always interesting and sometimes sad (especially when you hear about the predators or simply the mistakes people make).
At the same time, I’m looking at different ways of reaching more people to help them learn more about BDSM. Marketing techniques. Educational products. Books. You name it – it’s all swimming in my head. (It’s a little murky in there. Not a lot of breathing room. The file cabinets are filling up pretty fast. It’s scary in my head…and no where near as organized as I’d like.)
And then something new catches my attention…squirrel!
I was fortunate to find BDSM and D/s relationships in a gentle, non-threatening way. I didn’t get involved with any crazies from Fetlife. I never responded to the assholes who demand submission through an anonymous message. I didn’t have a partner to try and convince. And I never read 50 Shades of Grey. No, I don’t think I’m smarter than anyone else…just damn lucky, that’s all.
Help Me Help New Kinksters
When I’m trying to figure out what new kinksters might need most, I’m at a slight disadvantage. I know what I think they need, but since I was led in much of this, I don’t know what someone might wish they had known in the early days.
That’s where I need your help.
Whether you discovered BDSM five minutes ago or 15 years ago, what are some things you wish you had known or had access to from the very beginning?
Think hard…and then, if you don’t mind, please answer the poll below. You’ll be helping me more than you know – and possibly a few newbie kinksters, too.
Choose as many options as you want, and please feel free to add to the list.[yop_poll id=”6″]