Masturbation Monday

Reaching the Edge of My Limits

John Brownstone and I do not play to the edge of my limits or until I safeword. For me to decide to call a scene means that I’ve hit the end of my tolerance. And while we have played to that point before, it’s never on purpose. Blame my anxious mind or whatever, but if I get to the edge, that’s where I assume play will start next time. That’s what I carry with me into the next scene, and I don’t enjoy that feeling.

So no, we don’t purposely get kinky like that…but sometimes we dance on the edge of those inner boundary lines.

He’d been practicing with his single tail whip for days, after a lovely and wonderful lesson from a fellow kinkster — in our living room because of course.

The crack was enough to make me jump and clench at the same time. He’d already put a hole in a canvas bag he was using for practice. I understood this would be a stinging pain…and an imperfect scene because he’s still learning.

And I agreed anyway.

Because not every kinky scene has to be a moment to lose myself in sensation and power. Sometimes it’s the give and take of, “A little to the left” and “Okay, stick your ass out a bit, babygirl.”

All of his strikes didn’t land, for which I am eternally grateful. I would have reached the end of my tolerance much sooner.

When the tail did make contact, I shrieked and jumped, in his favorite kind of sadistic “dance.” But then I had to breathe. Inhale to clear my mind, exhale to push the pain away.

Again. Go again, while I can still handle it.

Inhale. Exhale.

Until I could feel the invisible wall of my limits looming. I knew my brain would remember the last sharp crack and whatever excruciating pain came with it. And I would recoil the next time he suggested it. Better to end on a high note. Glory in the marks. Revel in the experience. Move to the next thing.

It was a night of experimentation.

Wax play has been on our list for literal years. Now was the time to try. We’d already experimented with our set of cheap wax play candles. (I’m convinced they likely burn hotter than candles of better quality but I don’t know that for a fact yet). To make it tolerable for me, he had to let the wax drip from a very high point.

Making beautiful, multi-colored splatter marks…and increasing the area where I felt the heat.

Purple, red, and black wax droplets on Kayla Lords back

Heat that made me hiss and writhe. Heat I had to breathe through.

We developed a new signal. My hand extended, pushing against some invisible barrier, every tendon tight with the will to breathe through each bit of pain. Head down, inhale through my nostrils, exhale from my mouth.

I understood I was new and had no tolerance for the sensation. My experience tells me that with better equipment and time, I can adjust.

But every few drops, I needed to stop, catch my breath, take a moment to revel in the warmth that seeped into my skin after each initial shock. The only pleasurable part of this wax play experience.

I felt the outer edge of my limit for this kind of pain creep up in the darkness of my mind. A few more drops of wax and I’d tell him to leave it alone for good. That wasn’t how I wanted this to end.

“Ready to stop, babygirl?”

He knows me well, and the time between breaths had extended again. The part of me that wanted him to have his fun warred with my sense of self-preservation. My pragmatic nature won.

“Yes, Daddy. For tonight.”

I thought my mind was still sharp, in the moment, ready to go. Until I climbed on the bed and realized I swayed drunkenly. A different kind of subspace but very real.

The sensations, the newness, the pure submission to unwelcome pain offered through his very welcome dominance. My mind was mush but I was lucid enough to know what I wanted.

“I’m playing with my finger vibrator tonight.”

“Okay, babygirl.”

It’s fuzzy from here, but I remember his tongue buried in my cunt as the vibrations pulsed through my clit. I remember gushing a little, then a lot, and pulling a dripping vibrator away from my body. And he will never let me forget what I said.

“Are you ready to fuck me, yet Daddy? Because I really want you to fuck me.”

And he did. With the same power and control and focus he’d showed all night. But sans the kilt.

Welcome to Masturbation Monday! If you look at the picture above, you’ll see John Brownstone sporting a kilt. If you think it looks good on him, you should see it in person. My panties fell on the ground and spontaneously combusted when he told me, “It’s time, babygirl.” I don’t run for anything, but a bitch will power walk for that kind of kinky fuckery. Okay, for erotic smut (instead of my weird analysis), you know where to go!

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Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


  • Hmmm…

    And now I’m picturing you in a jogging suit, holding a mocha in one hand and a cardboard sign in the other that says:


    A girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do! ๐Ÿ˜›

  • It is a long time since we have been involved in wax play – this post makes me want to go there again ๐Ÿ˜‰ and did I read the mention of a kilt! I really think we need some more photos of JB in that garment ;-)x

  • I have a very love hate relationship with pain, and I, like you am much more likely to call stop at the edge of tolerance rather than what my flesh could really handle.

    It’s hot to imagine you dancing around at the crack of a whip. I imagine some squealing…and rubbing those spots out.

    • Lots of squealing and LOTS of rubbing.

      The mind and body are so connected that once I reach that edge, my body believes I can’t take another second either. The sensation because unbearable and nagging for me. Sometimes I wonder what would happen if he pushed past that point, but I also think it’s good that we don’t do that.

  • That brings back vivid memories of my own quite recent first single tail experience. She took 2 1/2 years before deciding I was ready for it – and I’m glad she did, as it’s everything you describe here and it’s a big test of limits.

    Great description – I’m hearing the crack of the whip.

    • Thank you! I don’t think it’s something I could have done early in our relationship since it’s not something I ever thought about experiencing. But it worked because we waited. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Hmm, so vivid. Such pretty marks and wax dots! Hard won through the pain, but still, a lovely affirmation of how you were able to endure through some new kinky fuckery!!

  • We recently tried wax play for the first time, it was a wonderful sensual experience, once play had concluded and we sat together, just being one spent being, he turned to me and said โ€œyour like one big, sexy, babybellโ€ ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป This babybell is game for more!

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