How We Get Kinky With Vibrators #sponsored

I didn’t get my first sex toy until I was about 33. Prior to that, the first object I used to bring myself to orgasm was a cucumber – and I was 32. Call me a late bloomer, but the first toy I ever received (a vibrator purchased for me by a former partner) was the start of a bit of an addiction.

Vibrators don’t make an appearance in every sexual moment of ours, but when they do, it invariably ends up being at least a little kinky. Frankly, when I try sex toys out by myself, it’s lacking something because I want to know how they feel when John Brownstone pushes it against my clit. I want to know how many orgasms he can wring from my body.

Being the sadist, he doesn’t stop just because I squeak a little. On my own, I’ll pull away the moment it becomes too intense. Not him. That’s his signal to take it a step further and find out just how much I really can take. So yes, if you’re new to the idea of sex toys with your partner as a general thing, vibrators can definitely be kinky as hell.

Forced Orgasm Fun

Of course, forcing orgasms with a vibrator can depends on how easily you orgasm or how strong the vibe is. As a multi-orgasmic girl who only needs a vibrator to buzz near my clit, this one is almost too easy – and too painful. But that’s what I like about it. Lying on the bed, legs spread, his fingers pressing cruelly into my thighs while he presses the buzzing head, tip, or whatever against my body – it hits all my buttons (pun intended).

I cry out. I writhe. I beg. And I come over and over again. It’s enough to exhaust me and wring my body dry. Which, of course, is part of the point. The rest is about control, power, and pain – three of my favorite things.

Using More Than One

One of my favorite moments of kinky fun with vibrators was during a week we destroyed a cheap hotel room. Well, not the whole room. Just the bed. And the covers. Probably the mattress too. If you ever visit our area, I can tell you which hotel/room to avoid.

One buzzy vibrator – my thickest one – was inserted deep in my body. He had it on a low, steady pulse. Not enough to make me come, but enough to draw thick cream from my body. He picked up a small vibe – my purple “butterfly” which rarely gave me big orgasms. The combination was explosive and not in the squirting, gushing way you might expect from me. Bone-rattling, muscle-clenching, milking, creaming orgasms instead were my reward for being his patient and willing good girl.

Bondage and the Magic Wand

I don’t know if the Original Magic Wand counts as a “vibrator” because it’s sold most frequently as a wand massager – heavier than your typical vibrator. I’m adding it here because I can. Our favorite way to play with this is almost cliche in the kink world, but I don’t give a crap. Bondage is already a soothing thing for both of us. Now add a homemade harness for this big ass vibrator.

I get tied up. He makes me feel small and helpless. And then the best, biggest, and wettest orgasms of my life happen. There aren’t enough towels for this one. What kills me is that I always end up begging for it to stop only to think to myself later, “I could have taken more. I’m sure of it.” (No I couldn’t.)

Anal Fun

We don’t do a lot of anal play anymore, but I still have (and love) my vibrating anal plug. It’s nice and tapered with a massive base. You’re not wearing this for comfort or to look cute. This is an ass training, orgasm inducing item.

When we were long distance, John Brownstone would often send me a text:

Insert the black anal plug. And get your big black vibrator.

Basically, I was being plugged and buzzed from both ends. Over the phone, he’d listen to my whimpers and cries of pleasure as I worked in one and turned it on, and then did the same with the other. The kids were down the hall, so I had to be careful to stay as quiet as possible. Sometimes, he’d let me orgasm quickly. Sometimes, he’d listened to be suffer as he denied every plea for mercy, for release, for something. Orgasm control, anal play, and double penetration? Yes, please!

I’m a firm believer that anything can be made kinky with a little bit of imagination. I also don’t think it’s a competition for who can be the kinkiest. So if having your partner hold the vibrator and decide where and how much sensation you’ll feel makes you feel a little dirty and kinky, go for it. And if you look at my experiences and think it sounds pretty vanilla, cool. Kink is a spectrum, and what matters is the enjoyment you find in it with your partner. If you haven’t tried getting kinky with your sex toys, I highly recommend it.

Oh, and because I’m always looking for new ways to play, feel free to share your kinkiest moment with a vibrator. 

Post sponsored by Ella Paradis.