Well, I’m taking the lazy-woman’s way out this week. I’ve written a lot of good information about BDSM, Dominance and submission, and kink – but none of it here. Sad but true. I’m running on empty right now so instead, I’m going to share what I’ve written on other sites – places you should check out, just sayin’…
Being a Daddy or Little Isn’t About Children – Kinkly.com
Ever hear someone call their partner “Daddy” and feel a little grossed out? Does the idea of an adult identifying as a “little” make you wonder what’s wrong with them or wonder what that even means? While there are some sick people in the world, the Daddy/little dynamic in D/s relationships has nothing to do with children, pedophilia, or “Daddy issues.” Read the rest.
I know you’re absolute gobsmacked that I would ever have an opinion about Daddies, littles, and all the rest. Just shocking! (Okay, I’m turning off my sarcasm font now.) For the unintiated, it isn’t what you think. And sadly, some of the misconceptions and bad info come from within the BDSM community. Ugh!
How to Deal with the Question of Being Kinky and a Parent – SubmissiveGuide.com
First, you have to realize that the question of whether you can be kinky and a parent comes from one of two places. Either someone is genuinely confused because they still have a lot to learn about D/s and BDSM, or they’re judging the lifestyle based on false information and preconceived notions. Read the rest.
This one is for both those who are well-meaning in their questions AND the jerks who think we’re all pedophiles (which never made sense to me).
Submission is a Choice that Will be Tested – SubmissiveGuide.com
Until recently, being a babygirl didn’t conflict with being a submissive. In good times, I was a giggly submissive. In stressful times, a pouty, teary one. I never felt a pull between the two parts of who I am.
But the day came, fueled by PMS and hormones, and it shocked the hell out of me. For a moment, I had to decide what mattered more – my babygirl nature or my desire to submit and serve. Read the rest.
Being Dominant or submissive might be who we are at our core, but the willingness to (in my case) submit is ALWAYS a choice. A choice that will be tested at least once – and probably in ways you never expected.
What Good Kinky and Vanilla Relationships Have in Common – Kinkly.com
As someone who writes about BDSM and D/s relationships. – a lot – I receive comments from people all the time who want to point out that good non-kinky relationships (often referred to as vanilla) have the same characteristics as good kinky relationships. They’re right. A good relationship is built on a solid foundation regardless of the flavor of your sex or your relationship dynamic. Let’s take a look at those commonalities. Read the rest.
There is not a damn thing wrong with anything vanilla. It’s simply another flavor in the Baskin Robbins world of sex and fetish. Relationships require people, and good relationships require very specific things, regardless of what flavor you prefer.
Pretty cool, huh?
I need your help with something, though. I spend a lot of time thinking about what I can write, and some topics go ignored. Not because I can’t write about them but because I forget they may be relevant to people. As you learn more about your own sexual, kinky, fetish, or relationship dynamics and lives, what topics would you like to read more about? Do you have specific questions about BDSM and D/s relationships? Feel free to share your thoughts and questions, and you may see that topic on my blog or another site. With your assistance, you and I can help curious people learn more about the kinky life.
And if you don’t want to air your personal questions for the “masses” in the comment section – email me at kaylalords (at) gmail (dot) com instead.
