This week’s Wicked Wednesday prompt actually took my breath away – and not in a good way. The topic is safe sex and how we as writers can (or should) incorporate it into our writing.
I don’t talk about safe sex in any of my writing. I feel sort of guilty about that. But I think I know why I don’t…
Most of my erotic involves people in committed relationships with one another. Or at least, in my mind, they are. Sex in The Big Game and The Visitor was controlled by the Dominant – and in my mind, he completely vetted the men who had their way with his submissive. In The Adventures of Sir and Babygirl, I detail the beginning of their relationship and then threw in a couple of hot stories assuming they were fairly established in their relationship.
That being said, now I feel an obligation of sorts to add an element of that into the next Sir and Babygirl stories. At least one story should probably focus on the beginning of their sexual life together and how they navigate those waters.
I have another reason for not discussing safe sex. It’s not a great reason, but it’s a real one. I was raised on the knowledge that you have to have sex in a safe manner. Full disclosure of partners, condoms, birth control – that was part of my education growing up. To me, it’s understood that you should always practice safe sex, especially with a brand new partner. It never seems necessary to explain that safe sex should be a topic, because everyone should already know about it. Right? Wrong. I know that not everyone practices safe sex, considers it necessary, etc.
So kids – and grown-ups re-entering the world of sex with new partners – be open and honest about the amount of partners you’ve had, use condoms, and get tested periodically. My testing system is probably not be the best, but seems effective – every so often, I donate blood. I’m giving back and, I’m confident that they’ll be contacting me if there’s an issue. In all seriousness, though, if you think there’s even the slightest chance you could have something – hell, if you’ve had unprotected sex with someone you barely know – go get tested. You’re probably fine, but if you’re not, you need to know so you can deal with it.