When the Distance Fades #Dominance and #Submission

When the distance fades and becomes a memory, what then?

What will it be like?

How will I handle the first time I don’t “feel” like submitting? Will that happen?

What will happen the first time we truly annoy one another?

What will we do if boredom creeps in? Will it?

There are so many questions, so many things unknown. I believe in who we are as a couple, but I’d be a fool if I didn’t admit that I wonder what the reality will be like for us. That’s the part of the story that I’ve never heard – what happens when the long distance is taken out of the relationship?

It won’t always be perfect. It won’t always be kinky – although I think Daddy has a few ideas.

When I think of what it might be like, euphoria sets in. I’m so blissfully happy. I’ve never had anything this good – what do I do if it becomes “normal?” My mom said she felt the same way with my stepfather – that it was too good to be true and she waited for the happiness to lessen. Ten years later, she says she’s still waiting. That makes me feel better. Not that my relationship is like hers – but that we both feel the same way.

Daddy is an amazing man although sometimes I think he doubts it. I don’t worry about him loving me. I worry about not being good enough, not being what he needs. I want him to have the best. He deserves the best.

I just can’t help wondering what life will be like when the distance finally fades.

About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


  • Very honest. It will be different, but still an adventure. Your bond will deepen, mature, and ripen even if you don’t think that is possible. You have already built the foundation, and it is very solid. The sky is the limit, go build your tower together 🙂

  • You have solved the complex maze, beaten dragons, and even eaten an elephant. You only need to traverse the final miles to gain entry to the castle and pluck your prize (and allow your prizes to be claimed). We, your villagers, stand on the side of the roads cheering as we see the cutest king and queen seize their fairytale.
    a little too much Mario and THE LABRYNTH? Maybe….but ya’all are going to be better than fine. It’s going to be wonderful.
    And don’t forget the bonus….I’m going to be only an hour or so away from you!


  • Kayla, Mr. HH and I dated LD for 4 years. We’ve been married now for 19. It seems like yesterday. We have been living our HEA since. The magic can still be there. You will be so glad you did it. 🙂

  • Goodness, Kayla, you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t have doubts and worries. It’s only if you decide to start keeping those doubts silent inside yourself that you’d need to worry.
    Given how you two started out being open and expressive, I don’t think you have a thing to worry about. Sure, there’ll be bumps and misunderstandings, but you’ll get through them. You’ll worry and cry and pout and freak out and then you’ll talk and heal and have awesome makeup sex.

    There had better be awesome makeup sex. 😉

    • Well, I’ve already worried, cried, pouted, and freaked out a bit from afar…so I’m definitely looking forwarding to some awesome sex.

      We’re both so afraid of repeating our pasts from our marriages…but the fact that we acknowledge those fears and talk about them makes the difference I think.

      Can you imagine the kinky fuckery posts after we’re together? Not even just awesome makeup sex. 🙂

  • Oh Kayla, Kayla, Kayla, it will be life! It will be good days and bad, hot sexy moments and times of none at all. It will be days of helping with homework, and watching that damn Disney movie for the 20th time. It will be wiping tears and calming fears. It will be sharing joys, and sorrows from time to time. The difference will be you will have a life partner to share in all of this, you will have your Daddy to love you, hold you, and never let you go! 😀

    I miss you friend, wish we could have another girls night!
    Love and hugs, Mynx

  • butterflies are good. they keep you aware and focused…and self-honest.

    seriously==there will be bumps–and you know this.
    I think one thing that is so key in a D/s relationship is the level of honesty required. It can’t work (even from afar) without it. and you’re already used to that. I’m certainly no expert on making an LDR become a day to day relationship, but I can’t imagine that either of you will sit back and go “aaaaH” and let things slide….you have done work to make it work already…and you have a good head on your shoulders. This sounds an awful lot like “buck up, girlfriend”…but really it’s more like–you’ve done it. No one has done it for you…and you can continue to make things work…because together you two can be invincible. 😀


    • ((HUGS)) Oh goodness, Nilla, you overwhelm me sometimes. Thank you.

      And I agree…we’ve developed the habits that all good relationships should have and we’re definitely not going to sit back and relax once we’re together (well, we won’t relax about our relationship, lol). Old demons have a way of getting into my head…guess I just need to beat them back. 🙂

  • Your doubts are so touching, it’s so lovely.
    I think that when s.o. engages in a long term relationship, he/she has the same doubts and fears, especially when he/she goes through difficult moments (that every couple has). Some couples split, others overcome the crisis and become stronger : the first ones only relied on love and attraction, the second ones used their will and their intelligence to negociate the turn together.
    You’ll do it ! When we married 20 years ago, I panicked during a few months. Now our couple is the best thing I have.

    • Thank you so much! ((HUGS))

      We have done quite well over the past year or so. I can’t help but believe that when we’re together, we’ll do even better. Everything feels so right that I get scared and think something must be wrong. Instead, I need to relax and just keep doing what we’ve always done – loving one another and communicating. 🙂

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