How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
What the hell has that got to do with anything? Well, it’s a metaphor. How do you tackle big problems, finish big tasks, take on big dreams? One step at a time.
Daddy and I have been eating our elephant since February. Our big talk before he left was less about our mutual kinky desire and more about what we want to do and how we’re going to get there. In some ways, we’re so much alike, it’s scary. We both need a plan, a list, and a strategy for most things in our lives. For both of us, this was the first time we felt we had a partner in all of it. We haven’t been alone. We’ve worked together. He’s told me what he thinks I need to do. I’ve gently advised him on what I think he needs to do. And we’ve listened to one another.
I firmly believe that the Universe is always looking out for us – whether that’s God, Allah, or the man in the moon. Things happen for a reason (not that I have any clue what those reasons might be). And when you’re on the right path, doors open up. Life isn’t automatically easier, but what you need to accomplish the goal seems to come out of nowhere and land in your lap.
We’ve both been cautiously optimistic that our June timeline could actually happen. There were so many things that needed to happen first. I think we were both a little worried about jinxing ourselves. When I wondered if the items on the list would ever get checked off so we could move to the next thing, miraculously, the issues resolved themselves. Thank you, Universe.
Daddy called and woke me from a rare nap the other day. He knew I was exhausted, but he also knew I wouldn’t mind. He had news.
The two big issues that I’ve wanted resolved were done in one phone call. A formal dissolution of a previous relationship – done and settled amicably. A decision about his old home – which he determined months ago would not be suitable for my boys (I cried at this revelation, y’all – I was overwhelmed that he would make a huge decision based on what was best for my children) – all dealt with in a few minutes. Both settled in a way that works well for all parties involved. I could hear the lightness in his voice and knew a weight had been lifted from his shoulders.
Here’s the thing – I’ve been in a holding pattern. A lot of what I need to do has been dependent on the outcomes of what he needed to do. I’m no longer in a holding pattern. Decisions in his life have been settled and now it’s time to move forward another big step. At the end of our conversation, I told him that I felt like I’d literally just eaten an elephant. The reality of our goals happening is overwhelming at times. So what’s next?
I’m hoping that the boys will be able to stay with their grandparents for part of the summer – this will help me get my business up and running and get our home settled and ready for them.
I need to put in my notice at my current job and help everyone deal with the shock. Two people see this coming, but the rest are clueless. I have one of those jobs where I help, in some way, every single department in the building. My leaving will impact everyone. They’ll be ok.
I’ve got to start the purging, packing, and planning that comes with a big move. I’ve never been so excited at the idea of packing boxes in my life.
I’m a person of action. If I see a problem, I want to fix it. If I have a plan, I want to work on it. Some of that is my impatient side. Some of that’s just me. I haven’t been able to do anything. Now I can. As you’re reading this, I’m in negotiations with my mom and stepdad – the step doesn’t want me to move so far away and may make things hard on me. He won’t stop me though – my mother already knows that. If they don’t keep the boys for the summer, life will be hectic, but we’ll make it work. I have no doubt about that.
Other than a run-down of my personal life, what the hell has this got to do with anything, especially Dominance and submission?
Well…this would never have happened without communication and understanding. No couple can take on a big project (personal or otherwise) without a plan that both can agree upon. And things don’t always go according to plan at all. If we didn’t have the type of relationship we do, we’d never have gotten this far. Vanilla or kinky, some things are universal – communication, determination, loyalty, understanding, and above all, love. Without those things, none of this would be possible. With all of those things, all things are possible.
We’re better together than alone. We believe in each other and will move mountains for the other. We desperately want the other’s happiness and will give anything to help achieve it. And together, we’re eating elephants.
How do I feel about it all?
Oh so happy for you both!
((HUGS)) Thank you! 🙂
That is all. No glitter.
No glitter needed. 🙂
OMG….. This is so awesome! Sir and I are so very happy for you both! 😀 after spending so much time with you this past week I really know how important this was for you to move forward. Get to work girl…. You got lots of packing to do! ;D
Lots of love and super big hugs! Mynx
After this weekend, things are happening at a faster rate on my end than I expected. It’s sort of a whirlwind…and I love it!
I hope that means things went well on the home front? Are the kiddos set for the summer?
Kiddos still not set for the summer, but they’re both begging to go and I haven’t seen the ‘rents say no to them yet. But the bigger weight is off my chest – everyone accepts and understands that this is happening and they support us.
Yay for eating elephants!! So happy for you and your Southern Sir. Now, get packing!
Yay!!! Thank you! And I’m working on it!
Sorry all I could manage this morning. Recovering from early am activities.
Loved hearing the double good news. I suspected as much. Sir and I are very happy for you both. Get packing 🙂
Thank you! I’m sort of deliriously happy too…even with new events unfolding faster than I anticipated. 🙂
It’s going to go soooooo fast… hang on!
I know, right?! That’s what I get for thinking I can control this train, lol.
Nope…. first mistake, thinking you have control 🙂
You’d think I would know better by now. 🙂
Still trips me up every now and then 🙂
Throwing glitter (BoPeep, duck) and doing a happy dance for you!!! This is great news and I hope the parents will get on board with the plan. Who doesn’t want their grandkids all to themselves to spoil? I am ALWAYS trying to maneuver that kind of deal. 🙂 I can’t wait to hear all about your new house and your new life with SSir. Finally, I love that he thought of your boys in this. Honey, as one single mom who has been on that road to another, that is the mark of an incredible man. We all knew he was awesome, but that little detail melted my heart. Much love and giant hugs (and glitter).
That little detail melted my heart too, if that was even possible.
You know glitter is the gonorrhea of the craft world, right? 😉
Little steps at a time and elephants will disappear of their own accord 😉 Good for you guys!
I know…I had to find SSir and become his in order to finally have the patience to eat the damn elephant instead of bemoaning that the elephant wouldn’t eat itself.
I couldn’t be happier for you borh.
Thank you! Yay!!! ((HUGS))
Sounds like your life is moving in the direction you want it to. Happy for you.
Thank you. 🙂 It most certainly is.
Woooohoooo! on so many levels! May all go relatively smoothly for you from here on!
Thank you! Relatively smoothly would be wonderful! 🙂
There certainly will be some bumps along the road, that is inevitable but at this point yes, the elephant has been eaten.
Just some gnawing of the bones.
Thanks to everyone for their well wishes. 🙂
Now it’s time to eat my own elephant. *Deep breath* I can do this. 🙂
Cherish this moment and know that all who follow are happy and holding their collective breaths for the two of you that things keep running down the rails like greased lightening toward your individual and collective goals. Excellent news indeed! 🙂
-Mynx’s Sir (Tom Wolf)
I can feel the support from all of our friends here. It has helped me several times. Thank you. 🙂
Greased lightning, indeed.
Oh! I’m so glad I read this today–it made me SO happy for two of my favorite kinky people. I’m thrilled you are down to “bone gnawing” and that the larger details have been handled. And so happy that two people who very obviously are over the moon about one another will be together.
Wishing you smooth days ahead as we slide into summer–and you two slip into togetherness…
Sliding, slipping, and smooth. Well, hell, now I’m squirmy. 🙂
I hope the happiness we’ll exude when we’re finally together doesn’t make anyone gag around here. But no promise. /giggles
((HUGS)) Thank you, Nilla.
This is such good news and I’m feeling so happy for you both!
Thank you!! Another bite taken today when I put my official notice in at work. Such a great feeling! 🙂
I wish you the best of luck, because you really deserve it, you and SSir.
You’d give anybody courage !
I keep your explanations on how to eat an elephant, it’s a lesson of life !
It is a good life lesson, regardless of the situation – one bite at a time, one step at a time. 🙂
((HUGS)) Thank you! We’re like small children we’re so excited!
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