Happiness in #Dominance and #Submission

I need you to realize that while you’re reading this one of two things is happening – I’m either on my way to pick up my Daddy from the airport or he’s already here. /squeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!

In some ways, being happy in a Dominance and submission (D/s) relationship is often forgotten while we’re discussing the rough, kinky, or whatever sex we’re all having. In between the kneeling and cock-worshipping, there really is a lot of happiness in good, solid, healthy relationships. I think outsiders assume we’re happy, but if you think I’m only happy about the great sex, think again.

Daddy and I still have a lot to work through in order to see what happens down the road between us. But in the here and now, we make each other very happy. We commented the other day that when the emotions we feel for one another hit us, it can be overwhelming. Love and happiness fill me up in ways I haven’t experienced in a long time. I almost feel like my heart is swelling…if that makes any sense.

While I’m looking forward to spankings and sucking cock, fuckings and rope bondage, and all the other kinky BDSM things we like, I’m really looking forward to warming my cold toes on him when we crawl into bed. I want to snuggle with him on the couch and watch movies. I want to sleep through the night, because we’ve learned I only sleep all night without waking when he’s in the bed with me.

What makes me happy in this relationship has less to do with D/s and more to do with two compatible people enjoying each other’s minds, hearts, souls, and (don’t forget) bodies. The happiness isn’t a kink thing or a vanilla thing. Happiness like this should be part of a good relationship.

I don’t care what you’re into. If the person you’re choosing to spend a majority of your time with doesn’t make you smile just thinking about them, ask yourself why.

About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.