Several weeks ago, I saw a search term result for the blog of “things doms do to subs” and I was like, “Ohhhhh, they do all kinds of things!” But I’m only one person with one perspective. Don’t worry, I can tell you what John Brownstone does to me. Hell, this whole website is a bit of an ode to that.
What My Dom Does to Me
I love everything he does to and for me.
To me or for me? Sometimes they’re one and the same.
Spanks my ass, pulls my hair, fucks me rough.
Teases my clit and grins when I beg.
Roughly fingers me and rips the orgasm out of my body.
Makes me beg longer or tells me “No.”
Rubs my shoulder, pats my ass, keeps his hand on the small of my back.
Opens doors for me, holds my hand, and keeps me close to him.
Calls me “slut” and “cock whore” when he fucks me.
Slaps my face so that my cunt clenches around his cock.
Holds me when I’m scared and lets me sit in silence when words take too much effort.
Gives me rules and structure to help me reach my goals, but he also relaxes them when that’s whats best for me.
Kicks my feet apart, pulls my pants down, and touches sensitive parts with rough hands.
Lays me over his ass, spanks me until I cry, and holds me until I come back to myself.
Sits next to me in the therapist’s office and listens carefully.
Gives me his honest opinion and lets me say whatever I need to — even if we don’t agree and even when we’re stressed, frustrated, or annoyed.
What he does to me is also what he does for me. They’re one and the same. And most importantly, he doesn’t do anything to me that I don’t consent to. If I need to, I can withdraw that consent at any point. Knowing that I will and that he’ll stop gives us both the freedom to try new things on the spur of the moment. This is a byproduct of the trust and communication that we’ve built up over the years.
What Doms Do to Their Subs
But I’m just one submissive with one view point. When I reached out on Twitter, I received responses that all had me nodding my head or giving me new ideas.
A recent search term I love: things doms do to subs
OK, kinky friends, feel free to share something you do to your sub or your dom does to you that you love.
Reply to this tweet or use #thingsdomsdotosubs and I’ll compile the answers for a blog post!
— Kayla Lords (@KaylaLords) February 1, 2018
Sexual: when he murmurs “come for me, baby” OR growls “don’t you fucking come, slut!” in my ear while fucking me.
Non-sexual: When he comes to bed (hours after me usually) and uses my warm body as a hot water bottle ????#thingsdomsdotosubs
— Amy (@CoffeeAndKink) February 3, 2018
A significantly abbreviated first pass at a list:
-makes me feel so loved, special, safe
-pets me like a kitten ????
-says things in THAT VOICE
-binds me up or ties me down
-spankings and floggings
-makes me squirt with his cock in my mouth
-makes me cum so many ways— Panda Kitten ???? (@lilpandakitten) February 1, 2018
Gave me his scarf when I went outside so his little kitten didn’t get too cold!
— Hannah (@confess_Hannah) February 1, 2018
Not so much a thing @DaddyAnguilla does but the tone of voice. Calm, firm. ‘On your knees,’ ‘I’m going to fuck you now,’ ‘Ride me. Slowly.’ Swoooooooooon!!
— The Swing Shift (@SwingShiftKarin) February 1, 2018
I love it when he makes me wait. I am bound, blindfolded and all I can hear is his breathing and soft footsteps. My body anticipates his touch
— K. W. (@KittenPower77) February 2, 2018
from Babe – Love using restrains on them and making them cum over and over! anything with ropes and willing victim (pixie!) , little bear telling me kitten or mouse have been ‘bad’, punishing them and then punishing lb for telling tales! as a switch I also love being told what to
— Pixie Heart (@PixieHeartblog) February 1, 2018
the girls and being watched doing it. being firm and commanding to the girls. but I also love when the boss man does the same to me.
— Pixie Heart (@PixieHeartblog) February 1, 2018
Sending me to bed, no matter how whiny I get that I want to stay up like a big girl.
Making sure I eat my veggies by making lunches for me.
The cuddle after the torment, and kissing the top of my head, murmuring “mine.” ~@HannahLockhardt
Clearly we’re not representative of every D/s relationship out there, but it’s always interesting to learn how other people do their D/s thing.
I really enjoyed this post, Kayla! You are quite the lucky lady 🙂
Thank you so much, I’m glad you liked it! And yes, I definitely am that.
This article made me smile. It was really well written and I always love to hear about others in the sub life. ❤️?
Thank you, and I’m glad! I do, too. It’s fascinating to know what other people do, and also, sometimes I get ideas to try. 😀
Hey there,
both of us like your article – got some ideas too. 😛
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I’m just now beginning a new relationship and I haven’t been with anyone in over five years! I’ve never even had an orgasm ! He is a dominant and I’ve always been submissive and want to be because I know nothing about intimacy or sex my husband was gay! So therefore I need to know everything there is about this type of relationship! Ready to learn ! Please help me! He sent me your website! ANGEL