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3 Ways to Show Off Your Kink in Public #sponsored

If you’ve been a follower of this blog or the podcast for any amount of time, you’re aware that John Brownstone and I aren’t ones to publicly display our kink – at least in vanilla circles. At the BDSM club, I’ll wear my collar, kneel, and do all kinds of things that show just what kind of submissive I am. In the vanilla world? Not so much.

That doesn’t mean there aren’t people who don’t want to show off their kink in some way when they’re out in public. If you’re curious about it, here are a few options for you.

Wearing a Collar

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This one probably sounds like a big “duh” but I don’t mean a discreet necklace-as-collar. I mean – a collar. Dog collar, chain link, whatever, but when you put it on, there’s no question about what you’re wearing. If you do this, you may never get more than a few strange looks. It’s possible, however, that people will ask questions about what you’re wearing. Say as little or as much as you want but don’t be surprised by the reaction you might get.


Look at the tattoo, not the scene, lol

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Body art, art on your walls, the things you hang on your refrigerator. Unless you plan on never seeing another non-kinky human being, eventually someone is going to see your chosen art that’s also kinky as hell. I have a cross-stitch design I desperately want to do – leather, latex, and a kneeling (smirking) woman. But I also wonder where in the hell I would hang it – and would I be brave enough to get it framed. I tell myself it’s like the collar – some people might ask a question but most would likely just stare. Except my mom. She would definitely want to know what the hell it’s about and what I was thinking.

Wear It Proudly

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If you’re in a place in your head and your life where you really don’t care what other people think, you could always advertise your kink right on your chest. Yep, there are plenty of BDSM t-shirts out there that will declare you “Owned Submissive” or “Dom.” This won’t leave any questions in the minds of people who see it. Be prepared, they probably won’t be able to stop staring, either. Our clothing is the way many of us express ourselves. If you’re willing and able to be really open about your kink (in what should be perceived as a “non-threatening” way), this could be an option.

I firmly believe that however “out” you are about your kink (or not) is a purely personal decision. Me? My kinky friends know much more about me than my vanilla family and friends. I can’t imagine (right now) sharing this side of my life with my family. But if you’re not that concerned what people think or who knows about your kinky ways, I don’t see anything wrong with visually displaying your kink in ways that don’t cross other people’s boundaries.

Okay, so I don’t think these three options are the only ways to publicly display your kink. What ways have you seen or done yourself? Share in the comments below!

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Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


  • Because I sometimes have night sweats I wear a nylon dog collar to bed instead of my leather day collar. There have been a few mornings when we were tired and forgot to change it. We went out to breakfast with a friend and he said “Did you mean to go out in that?” I think that one had a tag of “Trained Slut.” Sir and I laughed and I said “Um, no.” We are not out about our D/s relationship to anyone in real life. If anyone ever asks about my collar I say it helps with my anxiety. And our friends know Sir has a fun and odd sense of humor that I love.

  • I disagree about wearing sloganed T-shirts. With the plethora of T’s you can get these days, I reckon that if you had WEEKEND GIMP emblazoned across your chest most people would dismiss it as post modern irony. Albeit in dubious taste. No one would take you seriously, and if they asked they’d start with You’re not really, are you?

    I have some very explicit drawings I’ve done over the years. Some kinky, some just porno. I’d love to hang some of them on the wall, but y’know what … maybe not. The i laws do have a habit of popping round unannounced and No, that the cunt of the woman I fucked before I married your daughter or Yes, that’s me … oh, they’re called ball stretchers … remarkably comfortable actually aren’t really conversations likely to ingratiate me with them.

    I think one of the best ways to be Out with kink is to be part of the blogosphere.

    • I can see what you mean about the t-shirt. In a way, it would be a way to be out without anyone knowing.

      As for being part of the blogosphere, are we really “out” if we don’t use our real names? I don’t consider myself out at all, no matter how much I blog or what I do as Kayla Lords, lol.

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