Achieving My Goals with the Help of My Dominant #podcast


Oh, the ideas I come up with in the middle of the night…

John Brownstone and I have been seriously discussing making some much needed changes. First, it was the money thing. Then I begged for help losing weight. I keep trying on my own, and I either give up, convince myself that all those mocha latte, full-fat, full-calorie drinks aren’t all that bad, or deprive myself until I make myself crazy. None of it works, and the weight just piles on.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to be skinny, and he doesn’t want me to be anything but curvy but the reality is that I feel like a busted can of biscuits, and he can hold me accountable when I can’t or won’t be accountable to myself. A few weeks ago, I begged for an intervention and (surprisingly – because this wasn’t the first time I’ve asked), he agreed.

So there I am, not sleeping one night, and a “brilliant” idea comes to me. Can we record our negotiations for a podcast? Not because anyone will care about what he has planned for me but maybe because some people don’t know what a “negotiation” really means or can sound like. I was shocked when he agreed.

It’s not kinky and sexy. He didn’t push my limits or boundaries – although telling me no to a Venti Frappuccino from Starbucks came close. But this is about as real as it gets, and if anyone’s interested, you can learn how he plans on helping me AND just how much I whine when I don’t get my way.

From the show…

  • Kayla asked John Brownstone for help in dealing with her weight loss. After several weeks of assessment, waiting, and fearing the worst (basically, a two week mindfuck – although a very mild one), the changes to be implemented are ready to be discussed.
  • The first recording was eaten by the internet and had to be redone. This is probably a good thing because the first edition was filled with whining. Lots of it. The second recording brought up questions Kayla hadn’t thought of the first time.
  • John Brownstone and Kayla both gained weight over the year they spent taking care of John’s sister. He lost weight after a month on a (forced) liquid diet and wants to keep it off. Some of the changes will help them both.
  • Kayla can’t wear any of her clothing and has gained 30 pounds in a year. The weight gain has affected her health. In her own words, she feels like a “busted can of biscuits.”
  • John Brownstone assessed her current diet for two weeks using the My Fitness Pal app and her daily movements and activity using an app called Pacer.
  • The changes to be implemented: less starches, more fresh vegetables, fewer desserts, none of the specialty coffees that Kayla loves so much, and definitely no sweet tea. Keep drinking plenty of water, unsweet tea is okay, and fresh fruit for dessert is almost unlimited.
  • Activity is another issue to address: two 15 minute work breaks each day to be filled with movement and walking. They will do Tai Chi together in the mornings. Keep up current strength training routine. Movement happens even on rainy days. Long walks on the weekend.
  • Progress will be noted in weight and/or inches lost and the fit of Kayla’s clothes.
  • Not following the rules will result in corner time – which Kayla loathes.
  • A special request – a free Venti Frappacino from Starbucks (a rare treat for Kayla) is not allowed. The size known as “tall” which is very small is allowed. Much whining and griping followed this revelation. A threat of no treat was made. Whining became almost non-existent.

There’s no transcript for this one, but I think I’ve found something that might do the trick. If I can update this episode with a full transcript, I will!

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About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!

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