Yes, You Can Still Masturbate In Your D/s Relationship

I feel like I’m telling you there really is a Santa Claus. Some of you are thinking, well, duh, masturbation is fun and almost guarantees an easy orgasm and everyone should masturbate! Well, the sad truth is that not everyone views masturbation that way.

Since this is Masturbation Month, it was time to discuss masturbation as part of the relationship John Brownstone and I have. And of course, it takes many forms. He gives me permission. I do it for him so he can watch (and yes, even now, I still blush when I do it). Hell, sometimes we masturbate together and that’s our kinky fuckery for the evening.

Masturbation can be part of any healthy relationship, and, when done in moderation and not used as a substitute for intimacy with your partner, is really freaking hot and sexy. Hell, one of my turn-ons is watching men (especially John Brownstone) masturbate. It’s haaaaawt.

So there you have it. This week’s episode is all about masturbation, and even better, it’s the first episode with our new microphone that our kinky patrons helped us buy. Yay!!

From the show:

  • We have a new microphone, and it is beautiful! Pictures are on the show notes page!
  • You can still become a kinky patron on Patreon.
  • May is Masturbation Month, and you can win sex toys over at the Masturbation Monday site throughout the month.
  • Masturbation isn’t just something you do when you’re single.
  • Masturbation in a long distance relationship is one of the few ways to get off between visits.
  • Masturbating together and watching each other is educational and smokin’ hot.
  • Masturbating for your Dominant is on a different level. While it may be uncomfortable at first, it’s worth it!
  • Permission to masturbate and orgasm is new for us.

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About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


  • Not sure why some think that if you are D/s you shouldn’t. Ultimately whatever is agreed upon is perfect.

    • Exactly! I think it’s more of a relationship thing (regardless of flavor) and some people really think masturbation is only for single, lonely people. Which I am SO glad isn’t true. 😀

  • Aaarghhgh I’m so frustrated right now! I can’t listen to your podcast until tonight – Booo!
    Thank you so much for taking part in the Hop. Masturbation Monday is one of the highlights if my week! I’m so glad you host it every week Kayla! X x x
    I’ll be back later ??

    • Awww, hopefully it’ll be worth the wait! 🙂

      Thank you for hosting the hop. I don’t participate in these as often as I should, and I love the focus on masturbation. 😉


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