I have a guest blogger for today! Yay!! (Who wants to hold hands and dance in a circle??). Let me introduce you to Trillium, a BDSM author and submissive who gets it! By “it” I mean that BDSM is supposed to be safe, sane, and consensual. Like most of us living the D/s lifestyle, she has to balance fantasy with reality, how she was raised with how she feels. I think she nails it in today’s post.
Like what you read here? Scroll to the bottom for all the links to follow…including a link to Trillium’s book on Amazon!
Fantasy: my body is the perfect ideal. Master is a millionaire. i am always beautifully submissive with no thoughts, resentments, or feminist strivings. i exist only to serve. My Dominant is always in control of His thoughts and actions.
Cuffed to an X-frame, i shiver as He caresses my naked body with the flogger i know He’ll use on my when He is ready. my ass bears the beautiful ladder of cane welts He bestowed because i touched His heart with my submission.
i await His pleasure.
Reality: My body is…well…less than perfect. Neither my dominant nor I are millionaires. As an aging boomer/feminist, I have to work to submit to anyone, but I can enjoy it when my mind is in that space. Just don’t ask it of my full time! As for my dominant’s mind…it can be a muddled mess most of the time.
Cuffed to an X-frame, I shiver as he caresses my naked body with the flogger I know He’ll use on me when he gets to it. My ass is red because he spanked me last night because I teased him into it.
But for now…
I await our mutual pleasure.
Tension: How I see myself in my fantasy and how I exist in reality bring tension to my life. Could I be more submissive? Probably, but I was raised in a religion that taught me to “Question Authority.” What is more authoritative than a dominant?
Yet I yearn for the freedom to turn it all over to someone, or even a higher power. When the tension is at an absolute perfect pitch, the unspoken music between dom and sub is beautiful to watch and more tender to be within.
It’s not about the pain or control—it’s about the connection.
This is the tension I’m working to explore in my books.
Do you feel it?
“Ties That Bind” on Amazon
An interesting article indeed and very close to the reality most of us live in I guess.
Reading this reminded me of the flogger and whip as I had forgotten packing them 🙂
Awww! I hate that you forgot it. I’ve found most Dominants to be extremely creative and imaginative. Somehow, I’m sure you’ll come up with a good alternative. 🙂
The truth from the fantasy, Dominants are people, submissives are people…..while we engage in things that are considered edgy we are not have super powers.
Oh wait, am I giving out secrets? No subs are to read this on threat of getting spanked.
/giggles…we heard nothing, we read nothing, we know nothing…
And I definitely think my Daddy has super powers…
what a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you, Kayla, for having me as your guest! Sorry I was among the missing, but real life outweighed fantasy over the last few days.
Thank you, also, wonderful ladies for stopping by and spreading the word!
Please let me know when I can return the favor.
I’m glad I could help in any way! I definitely understand about real life getting in the way!