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Burning The Candle At Both Ends

I was in bed by 8:30 last night. No blogging, no reading, no shameless self-promotions, nothing.

I cried off and on all afternoon and evening – from pure exhaustion and frustration. The boys were normal little boys, and I couldn’t take it. I barely ate dinner. I barely functioned properly.

I slept 11 hours last night. I needed it.

I get up early every morning to read and write and shamelessly self-promote. At night, after I fight the boys to go to bed and stay in bed, I read and write and shamelessly self-promote. During the days, my job gives me gray hair – and I work out nearly every day. None of that should inspire pity – it is what it is, and if I’m going to achieve the goals I’ve set for myself, this is what it takes.

But, I’ve been burning the candle at both ends, and last night, I collapsed into bed and slept.

To make matters worse, I gave blood yesterday and disregarded all the advice I was given – I lifted heavy objects (a 36 pound 3 year old) and I didn’t eat a good dinner. And I didn’t drink extra fluids. So, last night’s misery was all my own fault.

But today is a new day, and I’m rested and almost relaxed…AND I’ve got an announcement:

For this weekend, my book is FREE on Amazon! I would love for you to download it, read it, and then review it. Click here to get it!!

I’m working on the next one – slowly but surely. I’m committed to making this dream come true. My dream is to write and earn a living from it. These are the baby-steps on that path.

And, if I haven’t mentioned it lately, I appreciate each and every one of you that have supported me through this – from comments and likes to retweets and reviews. Several of you have purchased The Visitor, and it overwhelms me. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


  • Try to remember to take time off for yourself and family. Even a few hours does the mind, emotions, and body good.

  • Sweetie, I would expect anything less from such a perfect masochist!

    So cool about the freebie. Are you hooked up with all the freebie email services?


    • Which freebie email services?

      There are so many tools out there to use that it can be overwhelming. I’m trying to focus on a couple of them. Using my professional training to make something happen personally – it’s kind of cool. I can feel myself stretching and growing. 🙂

  • Hi Kayla
    Is there any way to read “The Visitor” if you are an old luddite like me and don’t have a kindle… I’m sure it’s brilliant.
    Looks so good and proper on Amazon! Was it very complicated to publish it? Did it cost? My dom is a writer and wants to self publish his novel and he is even worse on computers than I am!!!
    Hope you are feeling rested and raring to go again. I love your blog.

    • Actually, there is! You can go to Amazon, download it to the option called your “Cloud Reader” and you can read it while you’re at the Amazon page (I know because I purchased a book from Amazon and didn’t feel like syncing it to my iPad).

      If you have a smartphone or a tablet, you can get the Kindle app for free and use that instead.

      And publishing on Amazon is free (they only make money when you make sales) and VERY easy. They have a pdf of formatting instructions.

      I hope that helps!

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