I have to admit that I’ve been fortunate in my encounters with Dominant men – since the beginning. The few who have spoken with me for more than one conversation have been polite, respectful, genuinely curious. My fear, as a single submissive woman, is of those “doms” who believe every submissive is supposed to bow down in supplication from the first contact. I don’t want to be fooled by one of these, well, fools. And I would never want to find myself alone with one of them.
I finally had an encounter with an idiot dominant. He approached me on Tumblr. The first two or three messages were innocuous. What do you like? When did you discover your submissiveness? Blah blah blah. Tumblr is new ground for me and a lot of people don’t seem to interact, so I’m an enthusiastic responder to all messages.
And then the conversation turned.
That’s when I became the woman that most people in my vanilla life consider intimidating.
The first message that surprised me demanded that I explain my submission to him, tell him about my D/s experience, and go to his page and find pictures that I thought represented me and tell him why.
I explained that I may be a submissive, but I don’t submit for just anyone. He attempted to tell me that I’m not truly submissive and that he is a master.
I advised him that maybe he didn’t understand how D/s works and his expectation that I would fall to my proverbial knees because he deigned to speak to me was over the top. He told me he’d been in the lifestyle since 1985 and knew how D/s is supposed to work.
1985, huh? If you’re looking for the submissive who submits in the first thirty seconds, tell me, oh great one, how long do those relationships last for you? I’m a submissive woman, but my submission is earned and granted to the Dominant who proves to be worthy of it. If you’re such a master, you’d know that.
Funny thing – I didn’t hear from him again.
🙂 He pissed me off after a while! I kept the conversation going because I really thought he was fucking with me…nope, his dumb ass was serious!
I call it the Entitlement Dom. I think Vile had a different name for it. Lucky you to snag one.
It was kind of fun to flex my bitch muscles…it’s been a while since I had to use them…
Good for you. One less notch in his belt.
Do you think that stuff works on anyone? It’s like the guy on Plenty of Fish whose first question to me was “Shaved or trimmed?”
We already know there are douchebags in the real world, so of course, there’s more online…dumbasses…
Night Owl – It works really well on the “lonely, desperate and stupid” “submissives” (and submissive is in quotes because anyone that lonely, desperate and stupid really is too emotionally weak to really be involved in a BDSM relationship to begin with.)
As for the “shaved or trimmed” question, it’s always fun to reply with “Well since I have both reproductive organs, it’s easier to wax. Being a hermaphrodite is a lot easier these days than it was in the 90’s.”
Hah! Idiot “dom”. I wonder if he’s getting “wanna-be-internet-dom” confused with “real Dom” when he says he’s been “in the life since 85.”
(For the record, I’m not a hermaphrodite, but it’s a GREAT way to make the online idiots freak out and run in the other direction if I claim to be here and there. Or if you prefer a bad pun “I only pull out that _line_ when I need to” haha)
ROFL! Love it!
LMAO – I’m filing that one for future reference.
And making an appointment for a Brazilian….
Yay for Brazilians!!!!
Well said Kayla!
Thank you. It was actually sort of fun. 🙂
You go girl… ^5 (that my high5) 😉
He doesn’t sound ‘dominant’ he sounds like a troll. 🙂
You’re so right. What a dumbass…:)
It’s kind of scary to think that his approach actually WORKS on some girls. 🙁
I know…that bothers me a lot.
People like that are just a small reminder how scary meeting people on the internet can be. Wouldn’t want to ever meet someone like that ever and I need to remember that “red flags” should not be ignored for they are our instincts to protect ourselves. Bitch Please!
Exactly. I’m extremely wary of people online. I have met some very decent people, but every once in a while one of these comes out of the wood work. Bitch, please, indeed!
such a sad little poser… Good to know you are one of those rare smart women who put him in his place. Back under a rock.
I’d like to step on the rock he’s under and squish him like a bug!
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