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John Brownstone and I have been together in some form or fashion since March 2013 (we've known each other since December 2012). We'll be married on October 28, 2017. We're in a 24/7 D/s relationship. And I'm not a collared submissive.
Does that surprise you? Depending on how you view collars, maybe so.
Will I one day be collared? I think so. It's not something we talk much about. We had one big conversation early in our relationship, and since then, it's been a non-issue - at least for me.
And yet, collars still play a significant role in parts of our relationship...
I have a custom leather play collar that absolutely puts me in a submissive (and very kinky) headspace when he puts it around my neck.
I treat every piece of jewelry he gives me - from necklaces to my engagement ring - like a "mark" of ownership. One necklace is locked around my neck and never comes off.
For both of us, collars are not just a sign of ownership and belonging but also a symbol of serious commitment. We treat "being collared" the same as being married. But not everyone views it that way. Like everything else in kink, collars and being collared exist on a spectrum from not at all to extremely significant and important. Which means it's time to talk about it in a Loving BDSM podcast.
From the show:
- Our giveaway winner is Rye or @CollaredMom (on Twitter)!
- There are multiple different types of collars.
- Not everyone cares about wearing collars or being collared.
- Those who do consider them extremely important.
- Collaring ceremonies can be as important and meaningful as a wedding.
- Collars and collarings are unique to the people involved and can be anything you want them to be.
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