Should You Have a D/s Contract? #podcast

D/s contracts seem to be on people’s minds right now – if my email inbox is any indication. As someone who’s had two contracts with the same person (ahem, John Brownstone), you’d probably assume I think everyone should have them.


But I think the decision needs to be made one way or the other with good information instead of an assumption about what you “should” do. It goes back to the eternal question of your friends and a bridge. If everyone else is jumping off, does that mean you should too?


I don’t think this episode is an exhaustive conversation on the topic, but I think it’s a good starting point if you’re still figuring out what works for you.

Oh, and even if you don’t listen to the show, I’ve linked to several resources for you to review in helping you decide what works best for you and your D/s relationship.

From the show:

  • The latest video is available through Patreon or membership to KaylaLords.com! This month we focused on punching.
  • What is a contract?
  • A D/s contract isn’t required in a D/s relationship.
  • A lot of submissives wonder if they should have them. They send emails saying their Dominant partners don’t want one.
  • Having a contract requires negotiation and what goes into the contract requires negotiation.
  • Don’t expect your contract to hold up in a court of law, but be careful what you put in it – just in case.
  • A contract can be as simple as a written list of everything you both agree to or it can be as elaborate as you want it to be.
  • Think about the reasons why you want a D/s contract. Thinking you’re “supposed” to have one isn’t usually enough of a reason.
  • If your partner resists the idea of a contract, hear them out and then decide if that’s a reason you can live with.
  • This isn’t a time when a Dom saying, “Because I said so” is good enough. There should be a reason given.

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About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!

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