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Can You Hack Your Way to Better Sex?

For the record, when I say “hack” I’m not referring to a bad cough or your computer. Hacks are tips or tricks designed to make something (the thing you’re hacking) easier, better, and/or faster. There are hacks for everything these days:

Marketing, working from home, building a business, decorating your house, hell I wouldn’t be surprised if there were “hacks” for raising your kids.

So why shouldn’t we have hacks for better sex? Well, that’s the premise behind a new book out by Kinkly: Sex Hacks: 100 Tricks, Shortcuts, and Secrets to Set Your Sex Life on Fire. Sex bloggers from all over contributed, including little old me.

(Scroll down to enter the giveaway for a paperback copy – open to U.S. readers only)

Sex Hacks Excerpt:

Sex Hacks by KinklyI’m going to share just a little bit from one of my own hacks (both of mine were about orgasms – of course!).

This is the unedited version, and the actual hack may read a little different in the published/finished book.

For anyone who lives or just dabbles in the BDSM word of power exchanges, kinky play, and Dominance and submission (D/s), at some point, you may play with orgasm control. Controlled orgasms come in a few forms: forced orgasm, denied orgasm, and edging.

Edging is being brought to the brink of a climax and then stopping the impending orgasm in its tracks just before you go over the cliff. For many bottoms or submissives, stopping the orgasm when you’re on the brink can feel impossible. I’m edged quite often in my relationship, and I’ve been told I must have such will-power and self-control. Not at all. I just figured out a trick that works!

If you need to stop your climax, kegel. It sounds crazy, but squeezing the muscles that help you prevent urination can also help you prevent orgasm…

Want the whole hack? You know what to do.

Get a Copy!

If you want to grab the book and start hacking your way to better sex, you can get it on Amazon:



Or you could just win a copy!

I’ve had a copy to give away in my hot little hands (or at least in my house) since the very beginning of March, and I’m finally able to do something about it.

Check out the Rafflecopter giveaway below. Comments, shares, or visits on Facebook or Twitter will get you entered in to win.

The contest runs from midnight on March 17, 2016 to midnight on March 31, 2016. The drawing will be on or very close to April 1, 2016. Open to U.S. readers only. I swear if shipping was cheaper, I’d open this up to other countries.

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About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!


  • My favorite “hack” is that anything can really be a spanking tool, frying pan, kitchen utensils, shoe horn, and even once when in a pinch an Angry Birds coloring book. The awkward thing was when the kid asked why his coloring book was curled up.

  • My “hack” is to turn off distractions and just start by touching your partner more. You’ll be surprised by how much your sex life improves. When you make space in your life for more love, it magically shows up! I’d love to win so that I can talk about it on my podcast that is launching in May.

    • I agree. Simply being a little closer, paying a little more attention, and opening yourself up to intimacy will get you farther than most people realize.

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