Welcome to Wicked Wednesday! This week’s prompt is “Communication” and how important it is to us and our thoughts on it. I don’t think anyone has time for all my thoughts on communication, but I will attempt to be concise.
It’s the most important thing in any relationship, kinky or vanilla. Without good communication, your relationship will fail. It will. Every relationship I’ve ever had where I felt I couldn’t or shouldn’t communicate, or I simply wouldn’t, failed.
I read blogs. I lurk on social media. I pay attention. You know which couples are having the most problems? The one’s who don’t communicate. To my D/s friends out there – how many times have I lectured you on the need for communication?? And how many times have I been right? When you talked to one another, you were able to work together to deal with the issues – or you learned that what you thought was some devastating thing wasn’t really that big of a deal.
Want to know how strongly I feel about the topic? When I had the opportunity to guest post for my glitter-girl, Cinnamon, I wrote nearly 900 words devoted to the subject.
Click here to read the post. Check out the comments. Do you see how many people responded that they needed to read this or that they agree completely? Yeah, because it’s the truth.
Ok, if you don’t feel like reading it, here’s the gist – if you don’t communicate, you might as well end your relationship now. Go ahead. Walk away. Better to be miserable now than cause yourselves a lot of misery over a long period of time because you can’t or won’t communicate.
Clear and consistent communication is the hallmark of any D/s relationship – whether you’ve been married for 20 years and you’re trying to save a failing marriage or you’re just looking for a play partner OR (like Daddy and myself), you know who and what you are and you’re looking for a D/s love match.
You have to talk to each other, and you HAVE to be completely, brutally honest, even when it’s difficult. Especially when it’s difficult.
Sadly, it’s not made a big issue in the vanilla world – but it should be. If the kink went away tomorrow (heaven forbid) for Daddy and myself, we would still communicate as much as we ever do.
Ok, I’m getting off my soapbox. If you really want to know how I feel about communication (especially for submissives), click the link and go check out Cinnamon’s blog.