Well the quick and short answer is…probably. You can’t get kinky with any escort. They have to be willing to provide the service. Not all escorts provide all the same things, either. But hiring an escort to help you try something new, whether you’re single or in a relationship, isn’t unheard of. So (in my kinky mind) the next obvious step is asking if any of those sexy services are kinky.
Let’s clear something up. In some countries, like the United States, most (all?) sex work is illegal. In other countries, like Australia, it’s legal but each part of the country makes their own laws about it. Escorts in Brisbane have different rules than escorts in other areas. But let’s all be honest adults here, legal or not, if someone is willing to pay for a sex service and someone else is willing to accept money for that service, you can make it happen. If you use a third-party or company website to help facilitate the process, make sure you read everything including what their process is for hiring someone.
The question is, at least in part, how can you hire someone so that it’s safe and satisfying (sexually or monetarily) for everyone involved. Well, if you want to get kinky with an escort, here are a few ideas.
Look for Reputable Escort Companies and Sex Workers
You’re not going to get their real name, and you might not even get a real picture at first, but a little digging will give you an idea of their reputation. Check a website’s policies. Ask questions about physical safety – for you and the escort. Ask about condom use (and expect it!). If there’s a don’t-care attitude with the escort or their company, be nervous. If you’re getting ignored, answers that don’t feel right, or just a bad feeling, keep looking.
Be Up Front About What You Want
You know how I harp on communication for your kinky fuckery? Well, if you’re paying for a service, communication is important here, too. You have to be willing to say the words, “I want to be flogged” or “I want to be denied” or whatever it is you want. Now here’s the deal – not every escort or sex worker will provide the services you’re requesting. That’s their right, and you’ve got to be okay with that. Before you hire them, let them know what you want and make sure that you spell it out clearly. It’s up to them to consent or not. If the answer is no, keep looking until you find someone who will provide that service.
Expect Professionalism…and Respect It Too
Whether you work with a company or an individual, you can and should expect professionalism. Service based businesses should be courteous, helpful, and upfront about everything (including fees). You also have to remember that the person you’re hiring is a professional. This is what they do for a living. You expect them to communicate, be polite, and do what they say they will. As their customer, you need to do the same for them. Which includes respecting their boundaries and consent just as much as you expect it in return.
Communicate Throughout
If you’re hiring an escort in Sydney (because wouldn’t you do that if you could go to Australia?! I might), communication has to go further than the initial agreement. You’re going to need to talk about more than money, time, and place. Explain what kind of experience you’re looking for. Tell them what your limits are. Share health concerns that prevent you from doing certain activities. The escort or sex worker you hire wants to provide a quality service. But if you don’t tell them before and during what’s okay and what isn’t, you might not be happy with the result.
Sex workers, escorts, or whatever term they prefer (don’t assume you know what it is, ask) have the same right to fair treatment and respect as anyone else. Their consent in a kinky scene or whatever you hire them to do matters just as much as yours does. Hiring an escort isn’t for everyone. But if you do, remember that yes, you’re the customer who’s paying for a service, they’re a human being worthy of dignity and respect.
They’re trying to do their job, and you’re looking for a satisfying (and maybe kinky) experience. Keep looking until you find an escort who seems to be the right fit – not just in the services they provide. With good communication and a good attitude, you can both get what you want out of the experience.
Full disclosure: I’ve never hired an escort in my life. My thoughts are definitely my own and are based on trying never to be an asshole to anyone who provides any type of service, sexual or otherwise. If you’ve got other (better) advice specific to sex workers, please share in the comments below.
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