I’ve had Tristan Taormino’s 50 Shades of Kink (which I received in exchange for an honest review) sitting in my stack of books to read for waaaaay too long. Since I made a commitment to read and review (and get through my crazy long TBR list) this year, it’s been on my radar for a while. By the way (pro tip) when a book references kink and has a (safe for work) picture of bondage on the front, do not leave it out where your children can see it. Unless you really want to explain what “kink” means.
About 50 Shades of Kink
Tristan Taormino can tell you everything you want to know about the world of kink, and more! Operating on the pleasure principle, 50 Shades of Kink is a truly helpful how-to that is the perfect beginner’s guide to the realm of kinky sex and can also serve as a wonderful refresher course. Whether readers want to get up close and personal with blindfolds, crops, and paddles or are just looking for some inspiration to keep things fresh in the bedroom, 50 Shades of Kink is ideal for everyone and their lover(s).
Included are techniques and creative ideas for bondage, spanking, flogging, sensation play, and rough sex; lessons on how to eroticize power, cultivate deeper connections, and incorporate kink into one’s sex life; and role-playing fantasies from the popular to the taboo.
Review for 50 Shades of Kink
Tristan Taormino is a well known writer and sex educator. She’s edited, written, and been a part of a lot of different kinky projects over the years. This is a person who knows what she’s talking about. I knew that going into this and was excited to read her work.
I’ll be completely honest – I skimmed through most of this. Not because it was uninteresting (not in the least!) but because it covered a lot of what I already know. In a couple of sections, she advised things that I’ve said a lot too – like writing down your feelings and desires about kink if saying it out loud is still too difficult. Considering that she’s been talking about, living, and educating people about kink so much longer than me, I felt quite validated, lol.
What I like about this book is that she goes into the side of BDSM I don’t – kinks and play. For new kinksters, she defines a lot of terms that those of us in the kinky community use. If you are just getting into BDSM, this is an excellent place to start. She makes mention of another book she wrote that goes into much more detail (and has been recommended by a fellow kinkster and author as a good resource): The Ultimate Guide to Kink.
This book doesn’t discuss navigating a D/s relationship, but it does address how to bring up your desires for kink to your partner. It also gives you different ideas of how to do kinky things – without or without toys. Plus, as with any good book about BDSM, there’s a big emphasis on safety, communication, and most definitely consent.
50 Shades of Kink is such a good primer on all things kink that I’ll be adding it to my reference page for new kinksters as a recommended book to read.
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