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3 Kinks That You Can Do Fully Online – If You Want

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Any kink can be done online, but some are more easily done in a virtual world than others. Of course, when you involve another person, it gets more complicated. Getting kinky with someone online requires a certain amount of trust that the other person is who they say they are and will do what they say they’ll do.

Online kink isn’t something to take lightly, depending on how you play. While some kinksters negotiate one-off online scenes, others may become emotionally invested in the play and the partner.

As with all kinks, online or in-person, it’s important to negotiate what you will and won’t do. You should also have a sense of who this person is (even if you don’t know their real name) and believe they’ll respect your boundaries. If you see a bunch of red flags or they give you a reason to doubt them, move on and find someone else.

With those warnings, here are three kinks you can do completely online.

Power Exchange

Is D/s easier if you’re together, in-person, physically in the other’s space? Definitely. Can it be done online without ever meeting in person? Absolutely. Look to any long-distance power exchange for proof.

Instead of a Dominant partner doing the thing themselves or overseeing activities, they have to issue the instructions or set the expectations, and then trust their partner to do it on their own. Yes, of course, you can ask for proof with pictures or videos, but there’s still an element of, “Will they do the thing they promised to do?” And let’s be real…a lot can be done over video calls, too, which can feel like your Dom is right there with you.

In previous LDRs (including with John Brownstone), I shared pics daily to show I was completing tasks. A couple of times I had to punish myself by following a previous Dom’s very explicit instructions – involving kneeling, rice, and a lot of pain. It sucked, but I did it because I was invested in the power exchange and was willing to go through it.

But the risk here is that it’s easy for people to lie. They lie about who they are, what they’ll do, and when they’ll do it. That’s true for both sides of the slash. It’s okay to be skeptical and to want a potential partner to prove themselves to you before you get into a relationship with them. In fact, please be skeptical until they earn your trust.

Orgasm Control

All online-only kinky fun requires a bit of faith in the other person. Thanks to the fact that this is the 21st century, we can also use technology to get our kink on in new ways. With orgasm control, I’m thinking specifically of sex toys that work through apps on your phone and allow you to control a partner’s toy or to grant access to your vibrator’s controls. This technology is known as teledilidonics.

Whether you use We-Vibe or Vibratissimo or Kiiroo (or some other brand I don’t even know about!), you can allow someone else to “drive” your sexual pleasure. Maybe they tease you and keep you on edge for hours or days. Maybe they turn up the stimulation to overwhelm you and force a few orgasms. Worse (in my opinion, lol), they turn it down low enough that you’re on a slow simmer of pleasure, only to deny you more.

Of course, as with all things, there is risk involved. Sex toys with Bluetooth and their accompanying apps aren’t exactly secure if these past hacks are any indication. These apps and toys have access to a lot of information from the user, info you likely don’t want anyone else knowing. Take care if you decide to play this way with online-connected sex toys.

Financial Domination

Much of financial domination is done online, but of course, it can happen offline, too. Financial domination aka findom is a form of power exchange in which submissives give money to their Doms. They may do this as tributes or gifts. It may be as part of a consensual nonconsent (CNC) scene involving blackmail. The money may be “demanded” from a “pay pig” as part of erotic humiliation.

And as with all things kinky, it may be some combination of all of these scenarios or something else entirely. But basically, the submissive partner relinquishes some level of control over their money to their Dom. Findom guides can help curious kinksters explore what it is and how to get into it. 

It’s easily done online because sending payments and tributes or buying gifts takes just a few taps on our phones most of the time. Partners may never meet or interact in person and still have a strong connection through their shared kink whether that’s through OnlyFans or on Twitter.

While many people tend to have strong (negative) opinions about financial domination, it’s a legitimate kink and/or a form of sex work for some people. As with all kinks, it’s important to recognize there are risks for either partner:

  • Submissives can get caught up in subfrenzy and spend money they can’t really afford. 
  • Neither side of the slash should share bank details with partners you’ve just met or only know online. (You shouldn’t do it in-person either unless you already share a lot more with that person — I can log in to any bank account John Brownstone has but we’re married, co-mingle our finances, and already trust each other completely.)
  • Boundaries need to be clearly set with both partners so everyone knows what they’re getting and receiving. Both sides of the slash should have their boundaries and limits respected.

Bottom Line

Of course, there are infinite ways to get kinky and most of them can occur online in some form, even if you simply read a bit of smut or watch porn and get off from it. Online kink shouldn’t be discounted as “not real” simply because it’s not happening live and in person. For many people who get kinky this way, it’s very real to them. Both from an emotional aspect and, sometimes, a very physical one, too.

Yes, there are risks to exploring BDSM online – and in person. That’s why it’s important to get to know the other person, establish clear boundaries, negotiate what will and won’t happen, and not be afraid to reject a partner or a form of play if you’re uncomfortable.

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About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!

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