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The Business of Writing About Sex: November 2015

The Business of Writing About Sex

For those who are new to my kinky corner of the Universe and wonder why in the hell I spend any time putting my stats out for the world, it’s partly because I’m a masochist (ha!). Really, I simply want other writers and bloggers to know that they’re not alone.

Blogging is a tough gig when it comes to getting anyone to pay attention to you. And I’ve had enough people tell me that I’m “successful” – at least by their standards – that I figured it was time for people to see what “success” looks like. Really and truly, I’m an average blogger with decent views.

The difference (I think, and I’m only guessing here) is that I never stop. I’m always doing something for or with this blog: writing, seeking out other opportunities, and looking and working towards the next goal. If that makes me appear successful, well okay, but it’s a labor of love (emphasis on that labor part). Anyone can have better views, more followers, and make more money than me – and since I’m not competing with anyone but myself, I say, “Go for it!”

Hopefully this monthly review helps people achieve their own writing and blogging goals, even in a small way.

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Top Post of November: A Good Pounding (from Masturbation Monday)

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Sex Bloggers Unite Triberr Group

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If you write about sex, are willing to share other people’s posts, and want to grow your readership, click on the link above to join the tribe. I swear by Triberr for helping my page views grow.

Sex Blogger Lists

It’s that time of year again – the sex blogging lists are here!

In November, the lovely and amazing and oh-so-kinky Molly gave me a spot on her 20 of 2015. I’m completely honored to be named among some amazing bloggers I know and those I will have the pleasure of getting to know.

Molly’s 20 of 2015

Erotic Book Sales

This includes The Adventures of Sir and BabygirlSir and Babygirl: Bound by LoveSir and Babygirl: Family Ties, and Madame Gretchen which as of November 21 is out of Kindle select. I’ll get it up on the other outlets as soon as I can.  

  • Amazon – 23
  • iBooks – 2
  • Barnes & Noble – 1
  • All Romance – 1

I’ve had to go back to doing my erotic writing at nights and on the weekends in order to get anything done, but I promise you, I really am working on more releases. I created a notebook of all my book ideas and plotted them out. Now, it’s a matter of sitting down to write.

Around the Web

All the writing I’ve been doing over the past few months started to pay off in November:

Bondage: It’s More than Just Rope – Kinkly.com

Coming to Terms with Kink and Violence: One Feminist’s View – Kinkly.com

The Importance of Collars in BDSM – Kinkly.com – This piece was written by request. I didn’t go into as much detail as I might have liked about how I feel about collars but I gave an overview.

Entering Your Local Community – SubmissiveGuide.com – This is a five-part series about entering the local community from how to find your kinky peeps to what to expect when you’re face-to-face with other kinksters.

How to Make Long Distance Kink Work – Fetish.com .

Loving BDSM Podcast

The podcast continues to grow. Still no hard data but I’m getting all kinds of feedback from listeners.

I’m also allowing the podcast to be sponsored by companies/people who want to get their product or service out to kinky peeps. Anyone interested should contact me directly. Yes, there will be a charge – as running the podcast isn’t completely free (unfortunately) but since we’re still a baby podcast, the rates will be reasonable.

For anyone who hasn’t heard about the show, check it out:

November was a long month, and a lot of writing was done – both kinky and vanilla. Unfortunately, very little was my own writing for publication, but that’s okay. I’m sticking to the plan to work from my outlines and write a little at a time. Kinky erotica will get written and it will be published! Because I said so!

About the author

Kayla Lords

I am a sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, international speaker, kink educator, and all-around kinky woman. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences, teaching other bloggers how to make money writing about sex, and helping kinksters have happy healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!

4 Comments

  • Ohh I don’t know Triberr, I shall have to investigate that one .

    And this paragraph

    “The difference (I think, and I’m only guessing here) is that I never stop. I’m always doing something for or with this blog: writing, seeking out other opportunities, and looking and working towards the next goal. If that makes me appear successful, well okay, but it’s a labor of love (emphasis on that labor part). Anyone can have better views, more followers, and make more money than me – and since I’m not competing with anyone but myself, I say, “Go for it!””

    I couldn’t agree with this more, yes, yes AND yes!

    Mollyxxx

    • I *highly* recommend Triberr. You’ll share other content – which Twitter seems to love – and increase your visibility and reach. Twitter – which is where most of my posts are shared thanks to Triberr – is one of my top referrals for visits to the site. 🙂

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