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I stared at my phone. Why the hell was it blowing up? What was going on?
It was Saturday, December 2. Molly Moore released the Top 100 Sex Blogs 2017 list and the sex blogging world on Twitter was talking about it. (That's what I get for sleeping in on a Saturday.)
But why was my phone going crazy?
And then I opened up my notifications. Congratulations poured out.
And that's when my heart tried to pound right out of my chest.
Holy shit. Holy fucking shit.
I was selected as the top pick of 2017. Me? (squeaked my inner voice).
The blogger who almost didn't get nominated at all last year because my (absolutely necessary blogging hiatus) caused me to drop off people's radars. Me, the blogger who keeps waiting for someone to tap me on the shoulder and say, "Who do you think you are?" And me, the woman who thinks she doesn't blog enough and might not be a "real" sex blogger because I don't always talk about my sex life anymore.
Yeah, I've got issues. I'm working on all of that.
But right now, in the days since the list was released, it's time to celebrate all the bloggers who made the list...and remember there are more than 100 sex bloggers out there. I see some of my favorites on the list, and a few I didn't know about. I'm curious about who will be number one next year (it won't be me, I'm now retired from this list) and what new names will be added.
Lists like these have value in that they give bloggers something to strive for and they give readers a resource to find new blogs to follow. No blogger should judge their self-worth based on where they fall in the list or if they appear at all. I don't blog to make a list and I don't think anyone else should either.
But validation of our work feels good, and I won't pretend it doesn't.
That being said, I'm not sharing this list to talk about me. If you're here, you probably already know me and my blog. To honor those who are striving to be better each day and each year, I want to draw your attention to everyone after the number one spot.
And I also want to say a big thank you to Molly Moore and her husband, Michael aka @DomSigns, who worked damn hard to make this list possible. They are an important part of the sex blogging community, and they've worked tirelessly for years to help it be a welcoming place for all of us.
Now, go forth and find new kinky, sexy fuckery to read and enjoy!
Top 100 Sex Blogs 2017
I think once Kayla turns her mind to something she dedicates herself to it 110% and this year the result of that is that she has managed to secure herself the No. 1 spot on this list. Her writing is always excellent and her content is hugely varied, she writes fiction, personal essays and thought pieces, as well as advice and reviews. She is an amazing resource for anyone looking for content about D/s relationships and I think she is absolutely deserved winner of this year's No.1 spot.
- Follow her on Twitter: @KaylaLords
Mrs Fever appeared at No.10 on last year's list. She is an absolute wordsmith in my opinion. Her writing is intelligent, thought-provoking, sexy and passionate and I am constantly drawn back into her blog to get lost in her world of words.
- Follow her on Twitter: N/A
Kate has absolutely earned her place in the top ten this year in my opinion. She is a talented and exciting writer and her blog is well designed and structured and in my opinion she is absolutely brilliant at what she does.
- Follow her on Twitter: @girly_juice
This is a first since I have been doing the list; a blog going from the 'new voices' section straight into the top ten but Bibulousone has done exactly that. I find his writing utterly enthralling. He tackles the complexities of his life and relationship situation with a raw honesty that is both fascinating and addictive reading.
- Follow him on Twitter: @bibulousone
Rebel's blog continues to be of a consistently high standard both in the content she produces and in the layout and design of her site. This year has been a tough year for her dealing with her Mother's illness and passing but she is not one to shy away from writing about tricky difficult issues and the honesty she brings to her writing is something to be admired.
Follow her on Twitter: @Rebelsnotes
This was a new discovery for me on last year's list and one I have continued to enjoy throughout the year. She is writer with a compelling style. She can make you laugh, cry and get turned on and sometimes that is all in one post.
- Follow her on Twitter: @notsosexintheci
Over the years Pandora Blake's blog has changed and evolved alongside their own personal and professional evolution. As a result the content currently reflects their extensive work on fighting porn censorship in the UK and their blog is a hugely valuable resource for both those producing adult content and those consuming it not just in the UK but worldwide.
- Follow them on Twitter:@pandorablake
Damn can this woman write a short story! Her blog is a mixture of reviews, personal essays and fiction and it is all extremely well written but her story telling is some of the best around and why she has not published an anthology of sexy wicked stories is a mystery to me.
- Follow her on Twitter:@ella_scandal
Kendra is one of the blogs which I was reading even before I started blogging. In fact she is a very small group of bloggers who definitely had a role to play in inspiring me to start my own blog. Over the years her story has been complex, difficult and inspirational and she has shared it all on her blog in her perfectly candid style.
- Follow her on Twitter: @TBK365
And in at number 10 we have the awesome Suz. Her blog is a fabulous mix of well crafted sex toy reviews, thought pieces and personal essays that explore a large variety of sex related topics.
- Follow her on Twitter: @redhotsuz
100. YOU! The last spot is for the all the other awesome sex bloggers out there. It is just not possible to include everyone, I relied on the nominations to gather the list and I am sure there are people missing, but this place is for you because every single one of you counts and contributes towards this community.