John Brownstone and I established a long time ago that coffee is our love language, but it's not the only one. After constantly mentioning the five love languages in different episodes but never really talking about them, this week's Loving BDSM episode is dedicated to the topic. We read the book (John Brownstone reviewed it), and now we're discussing all five love languages.
We don't think love languages are the only way to express love, but they can definitely help you figure out what you need and what your partner needs. If that leads to happier, healthier relationships, even better!
From the show:
- Our sponsor this week is Ecstatic Relaxation with Vin Charles. He's got a special offer just for Loving BDSM listeners
- John Brownstone aka The Wood Dom has a Father's Day giveaway running through June 13, 2017.
- New relationship energy or “in-love” obsession makes you act in ways you won’t once you come out of it. Dr. Chapman says it can take about two years.
- We all have love tanks. When they’re on empty, resentment and anger build.
- We each need to feel love in a different way, and it’s often not the way our partner needs to feel it.
- You likely will have different primary love languages.
- The five love languages are: Physical Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts.
- If you’re not sure of your love language, think about how you prefer to express your love to your partner. That’s a big clue.
- Most people have one primary love language, although it’s possible to have a second.
- The act of loving someone is a choice, as is deciding to love someone according to their love language.
- It requires work and you may have to learn new habits.
- Using what someone needs to feel love to manipulate them is wrong.
- Purposefully withholding your act of love is wrong.
- Loving someone according to their specific language only works if it’s done because you want to and out of love.
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