Last week's podcast episode was a big one (consent always is an important topic), but it may have been the most fun I've had making the show in the past several weeks. Sitting down and talking to John Brownstone is good for my mind and my soul, and even I know we have something special.
When it was time to work on this week's show, I knew I wanted to discuss trust, even though it's another big topic. One episode will never contain the whole spectrum of trust: creation, maintenance, loss, fear, so many things center around trust. I also knew that I didn't want to do it alone. Why? Because you probably shouldn't hear about trust just from someone who has serious trust issues. (When I say I trust no one, that's what I mean. John Brownstone is the only person on this planet I trust completely. And no, I don't think that's very healthy.)
You deserve a larger perspective on trust. So, this week, you get both of us.
We giggled. We hiccuped. We sweated (our recording studio is the closet and it was HOT in there). I also said "fuck" way more than I should. But hopefully, if you make it through the hour-long episode, you'll agree that some of our experiences with trust and how we handle it may be useful or enlightening. Maybe you'll just nod your head and think, "Yep, me too."
Either way, I hope you enjoy the sound of us having a good time, talking about a topic we both feel deeply and passionately about.
In this episode:
- Trust issues will rear their ugly head at the strangest times.
- Consistency plays a large part in building trust between two people.
- Trust is important whether your D/s relationship is loving or just for play.
- Do what you say you'll do.
- Developing a sense of trust in a long distance relationship takes constant communication and a willingness to be open about the details.
- Anyone who's had at least one bad break-up has to overcome the memories that play in their head (John Brownstone calls these "bad tapes") in order to commit, trust, and move on to something better.
- Once in a relationship, trust issues can still be a factor - blame the "bad tapes." The fix is consistency, honesty, and integrity.
- When trust is broken, what you choose to do about it is unique to you: repair the relationship or move one - but it must be dealt with in some way or you'll never move on.
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