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Communication, Sex Education, and Kinky Fun

Y'all know I don't write reviews very often. It's not because I don't want to, but I don't always review products or books like other people. I forget to give details in a rush to tell you what makes the thing so great...or not-so-great. But this one intrigued me.

When I was asked to give Couples Chemistry (http://coupleschemistry.com) a try, I almost turned them down.

Here's the deal...

Communication, Sex Education, and Kinky FunCouples Chemistry is a product designed to enhance communication within sexual relationships and enhance a willingness to try new things both partners desire but aren't talking about. The idea is that the company can figure out what both partners really want (often secretly) with a few answered questions. By few, I means 100. Once the quiz is done by each party, Couples Chemistry tabulates, formulates, and does other mathematical things and determines the couples shared intimate desire.

It's not enough to know your shared desire, not for this company. Now it's time to explore those desires. After the quiz is done, you can choose one of two packages called Love Kits. For the purposes of the review, I went whole-hog and chose the full kit (retail value $129.99). The other option (at the time - and we know things change) was $79.99.

Why did I almost say no?

John Brownstone and I communicate more than any two people I know. I truly didn't think this company could surprise us, and I didn't want to waste their resources to prove what I thought I already knew.

Why did I change my mind?

Because I was intrigued by all that they offered. And I thought if Couples Chemistry managed to surprise us with some sexual desire we both wanted but hadn't explored, imagine what they could do for couples who communicate less than we do.

The 100 question quiz sounds like a lot, but both of us completed it in less than 10 minutes. The key, I think, is to go with your first choice answer and not overthink it. And definitely don't worry about what your partner's answers are or what you think their answers will be. This is about finding out what you both mutually desire that you're not talking about.

I was surprised at some of the questions because they were about the small details, things I don't really think of very often. Some of it was about pure intimacy - suggestive looks, touching my face. The little things.

The results...

Holy fucking hell, y'all. I was blown away by the results of the quiz and the contents of the box. If you get one, I promise you, the money spent is worth it.

I won't keep you in suspense too long.

What was our shared intimate desire?

Ravishment. We were blown away. After we'd taken the quiz and almost forgot our box was on the way, we started playing with this concept. We didn't talk about it. We didn't negotiate. But we began to experiment. He held me down while I squealed and "fought" - we both loved it. He pinned me to walls and I whimpered - and it was hot.

But we never thought in terms of it being a formal part of our play. Until we received our box.

In each box, other than an amazing array of sex toys, is a ton of information. Sex facts, communication tips, plus a card that explains your shared intimate desire.

From the ravishment card:

Ravishment, forced sex fantasies, or being overpowered by your partner refers to the safe and consensual enactment of an erotic fantasy where there is an appearance of coercion and resistance. Ravishment fantasies are not about rape, but instead feature one partner voluntarily being dominated by the other...

Yes, we're D/s. Yes, we love BDSM. But ravishment is another level for us. We were pleasantly surprised to see that what we'd only just begun to explore was figured out by a hundred question quiz two weeks earlier.

We already know we share a lot of desires. He's the yin to my yang on a lot of levels. Our compatibility must have shown through in the quiz, because they sent two bonus information packets: Masturbation (duh, right?) and Threesomes (we're still working on that one).

The information provided is sex positive and written in a way to help people overcome doubts and worries they may have about their sexual desires. That may be my favorite part of the whole thing.

Okay, I lie. The toys were my favorite thing. What was in it? Are you ready for this??

Everything was categorized.

Play with Me Bag:

  • One Shot - single use masturbator
  • Love Ring (cock ring)
  • Japanese Drip Candles (one is purple!!)
  • Glass dildo
  • Neon Pleasure Tape (purple!)
  • Mimi Bijoux Indiscrets - body stickers (also purple!)
  • Nipple Suckers

So many toys, so little time.

Try Me Bag:

  • Pink GoVibe - Doc Johnson
  • Toy cleaner sample
  • Pjur Woman Super Concentrated Body Glide
  • Slippery Stuff personal lubricant gel
  • (3) One condoms: Tantric Pleasures, Island Punch, Guiding (glow-in-the-dark)
  • (3) Sheer Glyde Dams (in purple!)

I love that most of this bag focused on safe sex.

Arouse Me (Media):

  • Talk to Me Cards - 52 Questions to Spark Your Relationship
  • Indulgence - Sensual Rhythms (CD)
  • Cheeky Spanking Stories edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel
  • Three Way, Erotic Adventures edited by Alison Tyler
  • The Art of Erotic Spanking and Bondage (DVD)
  • Bondage Moods by Sir Frank (photos)
  • Arouse Me - vintage erotic photographer

This was a pleasant surprise. I love that this box touched on all parts of sexuality, not just the tingly bits like clits and penises.

The box also included a Feather Crop from the Fetish Fantasy Series. I took one look at that thing and realized it was too beginner for us, and not made of sturdy stuff. Sure enough, before we could even play with it much, it broke. With everything else in this box, I promise you, we didn't miss it. And no, we didn't get rough with it. Poor thing would never have kept up with us if we had!

The entire box is created and put together based on our answers. When you see things that are clearly BDSM-themed, that's no surprise. The masturbator was a shock, until we realized that was one of our shared intimate desires, lol.

I know what you're thinking. Have we played with any of it yet?

Sure have.

The nipple suckers came out for Boobday.

We masturbated together for Masturbation Monday.

The glass dildo made an appearance with a bit of temperature play.

So many toys, so little time. But we're getting there.

What's the bottom line?

Even if you think you communicate well with your partner, Couples Chemistry might surprise you. Could surprise you. I'm gonna go out on a limb and say it will definitely surprise you. The information that comes with the box is great to help you both talk about your desires. The toys make experimentation fun. And the value in what you receive makes the price worth it. I promise, if I'd gone to a toy store and purchased everything I received, I would have spent a lot more than $130 (plus shipping).

I rarely make statements like this, but Couples Chemistry (http://coupleschemistry.com) has my personal recommendation. If you want to try new things with your partner but are afraid to speak up, this is a great way to explore each other's desire.

Disclaimer: I received this product at no cost in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.

About the author

Kayla Lords

I am an erotic author, sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, and an opinionated marketer. I’m also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!

4 Comments

  • Very interesting. I would think that something like this would be kind of lame, but it sounds like it could be worthwhile. I’ll have to mention it to Nash.

    • I would have thought the same thing. Because we communicate so well already – and because of what I do for a living, lol – some of the info was unnecessary, but for anyone not writing about, reading about, or thinking about sex for at least 15 hours a week, it’s good info AND a ton of toys.

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