I will never complain about no longer being married to the ex, but I can admit mistakes that I helped make during our marriage. One of which was a definite lack of “us” time. Okay, so I didn’t actually want to spend time with him (which should have been a big ole red flag), but maybe if we had, things would have been different. Who knows?
What I do know is that I wouldn’t let past mistakes enter future relationships, not if I could help it. John Brownstone and I don’t get a lot of time away from the boys. Between the cost of a babysitter and finding the time, it’s been difficult for the past year or so. But we don’t let that stop us.
It’s not always about dressing up and going out. Not for us, at least. We like doing that, but it’s not always practical. Instead, we do date night our way.
We send the boys to their room with tablets or TV with the promise of staying up an extra half hour if they’ll stay in their room.
I order take out – sometimes Chinese, sometimes Italian. Once we were lucky enough to have Mexican delivered. Yay for queso!
We park our butts in front of the TV – a huge luxury for us, as we rarely have time or energy for watching much television. Sometimes it’s a movie, but sometimes it’s whatever series we’re binge-watching. Currently, it’s Big Bang Theory. I’ll forego a night of pigtails, knee socks, and Disney movies for BBT. No, really.
Either way, we’re “alone” without fussing, whining children who demand non-stop attention. We can talk about whatever we want, without censoring our language. We can watch what we want to watch without worrying about it being kid-friendly. And, on those nights of Disney movies, I can watch what the boys consider “girl” movies without all the faces and complaining.
It’s not like going to the dungeon. It’s not the same as dinner and a movie. But it gives us a chance to reconnect and enjoy each other’s company without having to tell anyone to sit up, use your fork, stop picking your nose, and eat your dinner, damn it!
Date night isn’t the only corrected mistake from the past, but I think it may be one of the most important. We have to be able to reconnect even when money and time are tight. No excuses.
Welcome to Wicked Wednesday! This week’s prompt is dating. No weird, funny, or even sad dating stories from my past. Just one way of taking care of my relationship with the most amazing man I’ve ever known.