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Sometimes I Don’t Want to Do Anything for Anyone

I'm what some might consider a "natural submissive." Serving others, pleasing others - it's all a part of my personality. I have been taken advantage of in the past because of it, but I've learned not to let people take me for granted anymore. That being said, sometimes I don't want to do anything for anyone.

It's not an uncommon feeling.

The first test of true submission is doing something when you don't really want to do it. Midnight sex when all you want is sleep. Kneeling by the bedside when you just want to crawl under the covers. Fervently wishing the coffee could make itself and a steaming hot cup could magically appear in his hands.

I know I'm not alone in any of this. But I wasย still surprised when it happened to me.

Here's the reality...

  • I prepare three meals (and sometimes 2 snacks a day) every single day. That's 35 possible meals a week.
  • We have a small sink and a crappy dishwasher so I wash dishes by hand most days. Sometimes I wash dishes three times a day.
  • Four people produce a lot of laundry and I haul it to the laundromat once a week. Now that schedules have changed, it's a solitary endeavor.
  • Milk, water, bread - we run out of the basics because I don't have the storage space to keep as much as I want. I go to the grocery store a lot.

Wiping butts, helping with homework, answering questions, pouring juice, holding this, handing over that. It's the life of someone who takes care of their family.

I love my life. I never thought I would be the type of person who didn't mind taking care of my family in a non-monetary, wage-earning way. (Don't get me wrong, I earn money, but Daddy is the main breadwinner.) I'm a work-at-home mom who is able to take care of my family in the way that feels most natural for me.

After a while, though, it inevitably happens. There are days I don't want to fetch, tote, carry, prepare, or any other damn thing for anybody in this house. I just want to sit on the couch, read my book, and order take-out.

I have the best partner in the world.

When I start to stress, feel grumpy, or snap for no "apparent" reason, he asks me one question.

"What do you need from me?"

And when I can't answer - because I don't know - he does what he does best. He takes charge.

He makes me rest. He comes up with ideas on how to make things easier and better.

Sometimes, he orders take-out, too.

About the author

Kayla Lords

I am an erotic author, sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, and an opinionated marketer. I’m also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom. Welcome to my kinky corner of the internet!

9 Comments

    • It’s funny, I wrote this last weekend when I’d just come out of hitting the end of my rope. This weekend, SSir has a sinus infection and needs to be taken care of, and I don’t mind at all. I just need him to be better.

      • interesting how the moment someone gets sick and needs to be taken care of all the anxiety that has been built up about needing something ourselves seems to melt away. at least that is how it is for me. i’m instantly transformed into mommy mode and want to make everything better, nurture, love on, take care of who ever is not feeling 100% and that of course includes my husband.

  • Yes, yes, and again, yes. I know this, I live it everyday much the same way. I also have to spend an average of 4 hours in the car driving M-F because the kids don’t go to a neighborhood school. I have those same days and I’ve learned to not feel guilty anymore to say that I’m spent and don’t have anything to give. Coach’s take charge in those situations means the world to me.

    You have a wonderful Daddy.

    • Ok, I don’t like all the driving I do but at least it’s not that damn much! Jeebus, woman!

      I’m starting to get over the guilt I feel about it – slowly but surely. I feel like since I don’t contribute the same amount of money, I should contribute as much as possible at home (and I do), but stopping and saying I need a break makes me feel selfish. I’m getting over that, too, very slowly, but the feelings are still there.

  • Um, miss Kayla? It’s okay to pampered once in a while ya know?! ๐Ÿ™‚ Give that as you do your submission, it’s freeing… -just sayin! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    -Tom Wolf (Mynx’s Sir)

  • I see it as a work in progress, just like last night you asked for help when you needed it and I jumped in to help.
    We all need help now and again, none of us are super-human or have super-powers.

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