This week’s Wicked Wednesday prompt celebrates 100 prompts – and the theme is “full circle” and what that may mean to us.
I’ve always said, only half-jokingly, that I never repeat a mistake twice. What I mean by that is when I screw something up the first time, I usually get it exactly right the second time around. The story of my life is that everything new that I do the first time will be a total screw-up, but the second time will be near perfect.
My ex-husband is a Cancer, with all the traits and qualities of a Cancer. When I met Daddy, I nearly ran screaming from the room because he was a self-described “typical” Cancer.
My first Dom was a Sir, while I was pet. When I met Daddy, he and I both believed he was Sir, although I was little one. We both know different now.
My ex-husband and I met online and had a long distance relationship. He closed the gap (twice) with little to no preparation, setting us both up for years of hardship and heartache. He was jealous of the time I spent with friends and family with so much distance between us. Daddy and I have sustained our long distance relationship for over a year. Our plans to move together have been heavily weighed, debated, and discussed – and the slow pace of the move has been maddening, but necessary. And he encourages me to make friends, spend time with people, and have fun.
My first Dom met me during a turbulent time in his life. He felt unable to assume the responsibility of my Dominant and left me, shattered and heartbroken. Daddy experiences drama in his life, but instead of pushing me away and feeling overwhelmed by my submission and his Dominance, he realizes that our relationship centers him and brings him peace. He treats me as a partner and allows me to offer suggestions on how to make it through a rough patch.
My ex-husband has not seen his children since November 2012 and barely speaks to them. Daddy sends a message to my oldest every day, encouraging him to do well in school, shares the hope that my son will have a good day and a good night sleep, and he tells him he loves him.
Have I come full circle? Well, there’s still a bit of a gap as we move forward with our plans and our relationship, but from my perspective, I”m definitely getting it right the second time around. As a woman and a submissive, I feel like the circle is closing more and more every single day.
hope everything will work well with you!
I think it will. 🙂
Thank you!
I love it that he wants to be a dad to your boys and that the kids like him.
That’s so important. I recall a post where they cried because he was leaving,
when you took him to the airport. . . I just can’t stop being so happy for you ! !
🙂 Thank you! I feel your happiness all the way over here! ((HUGS))
This is beautiful. Definitely made me smile to read how good things are for you. 🙂
🙂 Thank you. Life is good – it will be better in about a month, but it is damn good right now.
You have come full circle friend, and the last few inches will close when he holds you in his arms, and takes you home! 😀
Love and hugs to you both, Mynx
I can’t wait to go home. 🙂
((HUGS))
Oh miss Kayla, you two are amazing… I’ve just left coment over at his place and it’s worth saying again … What you two have is nothing short of amazing. Trust, respect, communications, and expectations are all in check. As you’ve said to others- curb your expectations, but fully embrace your anticipation of what I believe will be a great IRL long and wonderful relationship between two loving, compassionate people.
Love passionately miss Kayla… 🙂
-Mynx’s Sir (Tom Wolf)
🙂 Thank you, Mr. TW. Sometimes I pinch myself because I can’t believe this isn’t a dream. And sometimes I huff and pout with impatience because I’m ready for the next chapter to begin.
SSir is an amazing man and Dominant. I am a truly fortunate woman to have found him. 🙂
Indeed! 🙂
I hope it works out! 🙂
I think it will. We’re on the right track. 🙂
I think in many ways we are both coming around full circle.
I have no doubt of that, Daddy. 🙂
What a wonderful and inspirational read. So hapoy for you both. Kayla, I especially love that you kept moving forward. It’s hard when we have relationships in the past that that didn’t work out, but you took the wisdom from those experiences and look at what you have now! That’s some circle.
You never know you’re in the circle until it’s closed or nearly so. If someone had asked me a year ago if I thought this was where I’d be right now, I’d have laughed. Glad he didn’t let me run away scared. 🙂
“My ex-husband has not seen his children since November 2012 and barely speaks to them. Daddy sends a message to my oldest every day, encouraging him to do well in school, shares the hope that my son will have a good day and a good night sleep, and he tells him he loves him.”
OK, the rest are very heartwarming, but you got me with this one. Damn. You get to wherever it is SSir lives and never leave OK? shit…. I’m crying….. thanks Kayla.
Awww, I didn’t mean to make you cry. I actually get really pissed off if I think of it too much.
And no, I have no intentions of ever leaving that man. He’s so much more than my Daddy…he’s the best man I’ve ever met.
C’mon June 6…….:) I will be celebrating for you both that day. Happy Happy Happy
Happy happy happy is just the start. 🙂
I can relate so much to this in every way. My ex has the same birthday as Mr. HH, he left parenting our son to Mr.HH even while we dated for 4 years, And I had so many concerns and excuses that he just slowly chipped away. 19 years of marriage later, I believe I did it right the second time too. I love your story with SSir and especially love hearing of his love for your boys. That speaks volumes about his character.
I understand the concerns and excuses slowly being chipped away. SSir did a fine job of that, too. 🙂
He’s a damn good man. 🙂
I really love the comparisons in this – how you look at the past, present and future in the same post. Thanks for sharing and I wish both of you lots of happiness and love for the future!
Rebel xox
🙂 Thank you so much! I think the future is very bright indeed.
very candid and lovely post, i love the way that you compare and contrast both relationships…and what you have learned…
Thank you. 🙂
I’ve learned a lot in the past few years. It’d be a shame and a waste not to use that knowledge.
I think in this respect I too have come full circle… 1st husband and 2nd husband could not be more different really. Needless to the 2nd was the better decision
Mollyxxx
I think my second time around has been the better decision, too. 🙂
Uhhhh… You think?
Considering the ex-hubby keeps texting random stuff to me tonight – hope he’s not holding his breath that I’ll answer him. Actually, no, he should hold his breath.
Really…. Good Lord, ignore him.
Oh, I do…he’s an idiot.
Soon you will be hundreds of miles, and a lifetime away.
No doubt. And I can’t WAIT.
I second that….don’t waste your time!
Definitely not! I’ve got MUCH better things to think about… 😉
The ayes have it, motion passed!
/giggles
This is a lovely personal and insightful post!
The very best of luck to both of you and let being together happen as soon as it is supposed to!
~Mia~ xx
Thank you! We are moving in the direction, slowly but surely. 🙂